Real safety in an intimate relationship doesn’t mean any sort of deadening, any kind of let’s-not-rock-the-boat pact — as is found in codependent bondage — but rather a shared space, a we-space, in which we have enough shared safety to let go of playing it safe.

We cannot go out of our body because we are not in it.

Even when overwhelming losses leave us rudderless, adrift in seemingly alien waters, unrestrained grief reminds us of what really matters, needing no translation, but only our permission to have its way with us.

Go to the heart of your pain, and you won't find more pain, but a freedom that doesn't require the absence of pain.

Before we can embody a truer life, we need to be able to remain present and grounded not only in the presence of discomfort, unpleasantness, and opposition, but also in the presence of our reactivity and aversion to such challenges.

Making the ground of a relationship unnecessarily unstable — as when certain boundaries are overridden or trivialized in the name of “freedom” — keeps our relationship from being as deep and fulfilling as it could be.

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Avoiding Death deadens us.

Does it matter if the lemmings are thinking that they’re all one as their momentum takes them, favored or not, over the precipice?

What we won’t dance with, what we refuse to cultivate intimacy with, what we’re so ambitious to shed or transcend, is precisely the dance-partner we need — and need to approach — drawing forth from us the very aversion, tension, and pain that’s crying out for compassion.

The broken heart, if held with sufficient compassion, opens us to unbroken Being.

Don't numb yourself to your numbness.

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The tendency to dehumanize others infects just about all of us, however much we may keep it out of sight, tucked away deep in our shadow. Those we dehumanize are rendered sufficiently “other” to us so that we can justify treating them as less than human.

Evidence means nothing to true believers even if it proves they’re in the grip of deceivers unless they depart their trance and take the floor for a deeper dance

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Staying present with your shame takes far more courage than riding it into aggression or emotional withdrawal.

Unhealthy shame catalyzes our inner critic, whereas healthy shame catalyzes our conscience.

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