Sometimes it is YES or NO.
But often there are other options.
Yes, but not right now.
No, but I can do this piece.
Explore the other options before you feel compelled to respond.
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum #highered

When someone is trying to convince you to take on some new opportunity - Be very wary when you hear these words:
This won't take any time at all.
This will look good on your cv.
We'll help.
#PhDchat #ECRchat

When someone is trying to convince you to take on some new opportunity - Be very wary when you hear these words:
This won't take any time at all.
This will look good on your cv.
We'll help.
#PhDchat #ECRchat

Sometimes it is YES or NO.
But often there are other options.
Yes, but not right now.
No, but I can do this piece.
Explore the other options before you feel compelled to respond.
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum #highered

Great to meet old faces and new at #QPR2024 . The first get together of the tribe in the past six years. Lots to catch up on.

Great to meet old faces and new at #QPR2024 . The first get together of the tribe in the past six years. Lots to catch up on.

Saying NO can be hard - especially when the person is looking you in the eye. So learn how not to say YES so often. Buy yourself some time to think. 'I'll check my diary and get back to you.'
From Time for Research: buff.ly/2OPgqtE
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDforum

Worries about saying No:
They'll be upset.
I should be doing it.
They won't like me.
They won't ask me in future.
Other people will suffer if I say No.
From: Time for Research buff.ly/3qC0oel
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum

Worries about saying No:
They'll be upset.
I should be doing it.
They won't like me.
They won't ask me in future.
Other people will suffer if I say No.
From: Time for Research buff.ly/3qC0oel
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum

Saying NO can be hard - especially when the person is looking you in the eye. So learn how not to say YES so often. Buy yourself some time to think. 'I'll check my diary and get back to you.'
From Time for Research: buff.ly/2OPgqtE
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDforum

People pleasing
Say Yes
Feel resentful
Promise myself I'll say NO next time
Feel guilty
Say Yes ...
lizandmollie

And it’s better and much more collegial to say “no” early on rather than agreeing, then not be able to deliver and to let colleagues down … “no,” is ok and honest!

You can't do it all. So you have to say NO to something. Look through the list and see if there is anything you can:
- delete
- defer
- delegate
You can't do it all.
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDforum

People pleasing
Say Yes
Feel resentful
Promise myself I'll say NO next time
Feel guilty
Say Yes ...
lizandmollie

Maybe it's not always Yes or No. Maybe you have more choices.
Explore the options.
Maybe you don't have to do it right now?
Maybe you don't have to do it all?
Maybe you could negotiate?
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum #highered

Shiny new project.
Do you have the time?
No: --> Don't do it.
Yes: --> No you don't.

When you're asking for feedback it helps if you can be a bit more specific. Do you want feedback on the font and images or about the plan itself.
Don't just say 'Here's Chapter 4. Give me feedback'. Ask specific questions. #PhDchat #acwri

Let's have a restructure.

An academic conference in fact.

Maybe it's not always Yes or No. Maybe you have more choices.
Explore the options.
Maybe you don't have to do it right now?
Maybe you don't have to do it all?
Maybe you could negotiate?
#PhDchat #ECRchat #postdoc #PhDForum #highered