as a victim-survivor: being seen, heard, believed, helped, supported, cared for, defended, advocated for, protected, & validated.

(i.e., all of the things that my abusers-perpetrators continually receive in abundance, without question)

Let’s end this broken system that judges people based on the relationship they have with their family. Many people had to walk away from their families because walking away is often the only hope for healing, health and survival. Honor them for their loss and their courage.

I love having developed boundaries. I just care so much less what others think about me and it is so freeing. I know the people I care about and want to support and I know who to keep at arms length or more.

This is how it should have always been.

My body constantly feels like it is falling apart because of capitalism

Ableism is where disabled people are constantly talked down to and treated like they can’t have any autonomy…

Whilst also being told they don’t deserve any help and should fend for themselves.

Believe adopted, displaced and fostered people when they tell you that they have been sexually assaulted. #SAAM #AdopteeTwitter #AdopteeVoices #SocialWorker

Something I often hear from #ActuallyAutistic comrades is that we often perform emotional labor to stay safe, interpreting and managing others' feelings at a high cost to ourselves.

Do you experience this?

How do you navigate these demands while protecting your well-being?

Can we please stop giving the abuser credit for anything! If someone ‘healed’, is stronger, or awareness was made it is because of the survivor and those that helped defend them. The abuser harmed period and gets no credit for anything. #defendsurvivors #SAAM

as a victim-survivor, I have left / had to leave *every single space* in which I belonged / of which I was a part.

& my abusers-perpetrators? they all still remain.

The victim either leaves or is actively run out of the space, the abuser remains more or less undisturbed. Often the abuser even accumulates *new* allies. People who didn’t engage much with them before who sprint to their defense upon hearing the accusations.

This shows us just how dependent on social structures abuse really is, and how challenges to abuse (even just simply naming it) are rightly seen as revolutionary demands. Demands require an upending of all the social structures that allowed the abuse to take place.

Apparently staying to yourself and not bothering people.. bothers people. 😅

It’s almost always victims who go into exile. Rarely do perpetrators have to leave the places they fuck up.

Speak out, even if your voice shakes.

'Why are you constantly posting online about your struggles?'

. . . because it is the only place where I feel I have a voice & people listen to / believe / help validate my lived experiences.

I'm a victim-survivor & disclosed to a mental health professional that I believed another individual violated my physical/sexual boundaries.

said mental health professional responded, with an eyeroll & chuckle: 'I know relationships, I know how they work, I know relationships.'

“One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else.” ~K.L. Toth

Sometimes the anxiety you feel is your healthiest, authentic self colliding with the inauthenticity around you.

I'm a victim-survivor & a mental health professional recently told me that I was saying 'negative things' about the abuser-perpetrator & the abuser-perpetrator was 'not here to defend themselves.'

I'm a victim-survivor & a mental health professional recently told me that *I* was the one who actually traumatized the abuser-perpetrator.