1/ One of most important things I've learned: Severe personality problems find *camouflage.* No one thinks “I’m a sadist” or “I'm a malignant narcissist.” They find a belief system/social group that validates their most hateful, destructive impulses & construes them as virtues.

When we internalize early relationship experiences, we internalize both relationship roles. If we are mistreated, we internalize roles of victim and victimizer both When we become dissatisfied with our adult relationship and seek change, we have no template for a caring

“Repression causes stupidity” —Dollard & Miller, Personality and Psychotherapy (1950)

Some therapists think the purpose of psychotherapy is to enhance personal agency and help you to change Some think you are a victim of external forces and the purpose of therapy is to affirm and support your victimhood Choose wisely

Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. Is addiction *the* problem, or is it an attempted solution to a different but less obvious problem?

Therapists - Stop talking about the nervous system. We get it you know science things

Be wary of ads to match you with a “licensed therapist” “Therapist” isn’t a license Ask: What kind of license? Where trained? How many hours of supervised practice experience, in what settings? How much personal psychotherapy (hrs & yrs)? Currently getting ongoing consultation?

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Astonishing how one either doesn’t read the study 🧵 OR Reads it and still feels confident to misrepresent the findings. 🚨 Lets examine the misrepresentations👇1/5

One of the most exploitive traps a conscientious, ambitious person can fall into in a system is having responsibility without the matching authority

I think much of what people call “therapy” will soon be provided by AI. It will not be psychotherapy & will not lead to meaningful psychological change But what most people get now that’s called therapy is also not psychotherapy & doesn’t lead to meaningful psychological change

Private schools should be abolished. They're the biggest enabler of inequality we have. Put all the richest families kids together, with the best education and the best facilities so they can network from age 4. No wonder no one else stands a chance.

For children,who have no choice about where they live and who may pay a high price for offending a touchy caregiver,the defense of turning against the self can distract them from the more upsetting fact that their well-being depends on an undependable adult. Dr Nancy McWilliams

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Jung

“Any personality style can, in principle, exist at any level of personality organization. For example, we may see a person with a narcissistic personality style organized at a healthy, neurotic, borderline, or psychotic level. A person with a narcissistic style at a high level

In biomedical research, it’s unethical to assign people to a placebo control group when a known effective treatment exists But in research on CBT and other so-called evidence-based therapy, the control group is nearly always no treatment, or inert/inactive treatment that’s not

A partner who is unfaithful is one of the most painful and difficult experiences. Why People (actually) Betray Others:

What in the Disney is going on here?