Since entering the dating scene again several years ago, I still employed the adage of only dating men that someone I know recommended. Of course, no friends really know someone, they only know what that person allows them to see. But, I have no interest in dating strangers.

The first dates are always lunch. And it's always dutch. I want no obligation to any man, who could then claim well I bought you x-number of meals you owe me, to pressure for sex. That's immature, but hey lots of men do it.

So, after a couple lunches, this guy who was funny, not bad-looking, asked me to go back to his place. First, it's lunch time I have to go back to work. I said no thank you, it was way too soon, for me. His response was 'OH COME ON! YOU'RE NO PRIZE! WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM?!"

He then went on a rant about me being frigid and an f...ing bitch 'WASTING HIS TIME.' Interesting! I started laughing, which of course further angered him. I later found out, he wasn't divorced at all. He simply had a condo in town; his wife lived in the suburbs.

Then there's the guy I had coffee with. He had read Trading in the Zone and we had a great conversation for about 2 hours. It was 8:30 p.m. and I said it was time for me to go it was a work night - he said "ok your place or mine." Uh, what?

I said I'm not understanding you. He said he didn't "drive all this way for just a cup of fricking coffee." Hmmm. First of all, he didn't even buy me a cup of coffee, I bought my own. Second I wondered what made him think I would have sex with him?

So I asked him why he would think this. He said, all women give it up right away these days. Now whether or not that is the case - I don't think ALL women do, but it appears a LOT do - I didn't appreciate his attitude, and told him so.

As he walked away, he said good luck dating, you're going to die all alone. Wow. Another referral down the tubes. Which, of course I related to the friend who set the coffee date up; he was livid at his friend's action, and embarrassed. I told him to forget it, and let it go.

My point is - listen up women and men. Respect happens on both sides. Sex is not all there is. It is a part of relationships that should happen freely without obligation to either person. And it doesn't have to happen until both people are ready. This is FACT.

Everyone gets lonely. Especially since the political pandemic and ridiculous shut-downs. And we have to be stronger today than ever before within ourselves. Keep your self-respect intact. Don't ever get pressured into having sex for any reason.

And women - stop giving it up on the first date if you truly do not want to. And men - stop expecting women to give it up on the first date...because we all know that equates to you that the woman or women are tramps. That has not changed in countless centuries and never will.

This is the way it is. If I like you, I'll spend time with you and we can see where it goes from there. Don't waste YOUR TIME thinking I'm a desperate lonely woman that "needs" sex. You're the ones who push it because it's actually you who are afraid of 'dying all alone.'

So guys - let's be respectful toward each other again, please? We all can have great fun if just do that simple thing. And, my friends, when you have respect, that's when the sex.......is fantastic. You know this already.

Ok that's my sermon today! Have fun out there guys - talk to you later.........

Companies we no longer do business with or support because they are anti-American:

Subway. First they hide their pedophile spokesman. Now they have an athlete who kneels at games and spews hatred toward the very country she makes millions from.

Borghese. Received another order for cosmetic products. Again, the jars were not full, and they had air-pockets throughout the product, further reducing the actual ounces of product we paid for. Planned on their end...lower an ounce or two from the jars who'll notice?

That equates to a higher profit margin for Borghese, which is not cheap to begin with. Unacceptable all around.

Think about your money guys. Think about the messages being sent by corporations who allow pedophiles and anti-American athletes to be spokespersons. Do you really want to support corporations like that with the money you work hard to make?

Just Monday morning thoughts. 👍