Putting everyone else’s needs before your own isn’t selfless, it’s self abandonment. Society glorifies this, and it’s a massive reason why so many of us are unwell.

Have you told them directly, or do you believe they can read your mind?

Defensiveness is the number one cause of disconnection in relationships. It keeps us feeling stuck and unheard. How To Unlearn Being Defensive:

Over-explaining is a trauma response from walking on eggshells or dealing with emotionally reactive people at a young age. You don’t need court-level proof of why you are or are not doing something. Keep it short. You’re safe now.

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A silent killer: toxic relationships.

You’re maturing when you want to invest in deep relationships, want to understand who you actually are, and realize that other people don’t need to validate your experience or opinions.

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You are NOT lazy. You are exhausted from the grief and trauma you’ve endured. Also, one very real response to trauma is shutting down - according to polyvagal theory this is called dorsal vagal shut-down. Its when you freeze and maybe even dissociate, have little energy, and feel

“you guys wanna smoke?” me:

Own your emotions, heal your wounds.

For years I was an “over-understander” I tried to understand where everyone was coming from. Made excuses. Told myself things would change. I thought it was my responsibility to accommodate. In reality, my responsibility is: to take care of me. Not to decode other people’s

Candace on her way to snitch on Phineas and Ferb

High heels On my grippies

me home alone listening to big foot at 1am

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