Is it Me? Many parents go above and beyond to change how they parent, because their children require it. They respond to their children's needs, and it means ignoring many of society's messages about how parenting 'should' look. (with Missing The Mark) 1/

When students and I talk about why disabled people may or may not choose to undergo formal evaluative testing, we often focus on financial access. But as I process my practically free ADHD assessment I'm most distraught by the linguistic violence in these deficit-based reports.

Never stop being enthusiastic about your interests. Yes, some people will call you an annoying nerd for it, and that’s great. It will help you weed out the people who don’t value the gift of your uncynical, unabashed joy.

In the past I've been a "house the homeless" guy, simply because I believe it's humane. Living in San Francisco has made me much more proximate to homelessness, and it has greatly informed my position, and it has made other solutions (or non solutions) seem even less viable.

Living an aligned life doesn’t mean everything is perfect or going well. We can be healing, coping, working our asses off not seeing results, making mistakes and still be living in alignment. Expecting the journey to alignment to feel perfect keeps us stuck.

Here to admit some of my unconscious ableism - yesterday we got mums wheelchair (she can't walk well or far now due to the impacts of the brain cancer) - I thought it would be a sad moment, but as soon as I got her in it she smiled and said "we can go for trips to the beach now!"

1/ When I saw you on rounds that morning you were quiet. Your eyes looked in my direction but were otherwise vacant. This was a change. Me: "You okay?" You: "Yup." There was coolness in the way you spoke. After that, you turned away from me and faced the wall. Ooph.

frankly “you’ve got garlic in your soul” is a compliment; the grinch’s soul is seasoned better than any who in whoville I fear

Almost had my own #homealone moment while Christmas decorating when I stepped on a string of beads. #danger

Incredible content that resonates with me deeply! Some gems that stuck out: when love meets suffering and stays loving, you get compassion. Pity masquerades as kindness. Rage can be temporarily comfortable because it allows us to be in a place of certainty open.spotify.com/episode/5ZpT5p…

there’s no funnier caricature of masculinity than the Him from “holiday gifts for him.” he doesn’t drink any liquid but whiskey. he’s got 20 watches on each wrist. if he saw a single texture other than leather he would throw one of his pocket knives at it.

the moon’s wife The grill is his only refuge. The grill is all. He flips the meat, he braises it. He can never stop. If he stops, the thoughts intrude. He skewers the meat. He drinks the whiskey. He is alone in the universe.

We all have our own unofficial rules that we follow without question but they might be holding us back. E.g. I can’t share a picture unless I’m looking picture perfect. Break an unofficial rule this week and see if that action brings more ease, joy, or freedom into your life.

disabled & chronically ill pals: what’s your favourite book written about chronic illness/disability, and/or your favourite disabled writer? are there any books forthcoming this year i should be aware of? a debut disabled novelist sneaking around about to drop a masterpiece? 👀