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I don’t suffer from Autism. I suffer from the trauma of a lifetime in a world that does not accommodate or accept my Neurodivergent needs and continues to oppress and reject my valid and equal Neurotype.

We can care about the happiness of the people around us or the people we love-- without falling into the trap of believing we HAVE to "make" them happy. Turns out, in trauma recovery we have to set a LOT of realistic emotional boundaries like that-- & it doesn't come easy.

Being ignored by someone we care about can be a HUGE trigger, because it scrapes up fears that we're unwanted, unneeded, unseen-- &, ultimately, fears we'll be rejected, abandoned...or just forgotten. Even READING that scraped up sh*t for a lot of survivors of abuse & neglect.

It's stupidly ironic that, for some survivors, their trauma-driven anxiety & people pleasing made them appear too "functional" for anyone around them to guess they were actually suffering. No one "performs" like someone fawning for their life. You know.

a n n a It’s also untrue. I’ve done most of my healing alone. All of my most impactful healing was done in my own mind without the direct support or knowledge of anyone but me.

Trauma bonds can get you WAY up in your head inventing reasons why you "should" tolerate or overlook hurtful behavior because of your connection or relation to a person. In REALITY, a bond or relationship SHOULD be reason for them to NOT hurt you-- not for YOU to tolerate it.

@rebeccamurter This is the hardest bit. And also having to explain to my family and friends over and over again…..that I cannot do what I once did. And knowing that if I push….I will just make everything worse…..but also wanting to people please! 😫

When we don't remember our life story in a coherent, cohesive narrative, we can feel pretty "crazy" for having the symptoms & struggles we do. We gotta remember that those symptoms & struggles AREN'T nonsensical. They exist for a REASON-- even if we can't piece it together yet.

What does your body want in this moment? Rest? Movement? Food? Water? What else? How can you tell? #AskingAutistics #Sensory

The “golden child” is loved for what they do, not who they are. They become an extension of their parent’s self worth. Why the golden child learns to wear a mask:

Reflection on my often “awkward”/etc. social interactions growing up and into adulthood, which led to intense, paralyzing social anxiety for years. #ActuallyAutistic #AutismAcceptance #latediagnosis #Neurodiversity #socialanxiety #AuDHD 1/6

Parents of past generations had almost zero emotional education. No guidance for how they needed to help their children self regulate, to help them through their pain, and how to meet their emotional needs. Of course the end result is generational trauma. Parents do they best

Have you ever joined a group, got comfortable enough to start unmasking, only to get rejected? #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD image credit: unknown

Heather’s workshop on recovering from autistic burnout was so good!

People who find out they’re autistic in adulthood were not OK before this point. I am yet to speak to a late identified autistic person - whether or not they were ever able to mask at any level - who was OK. Very far from it. Imagine being disabled and it not being recognised 😶