Quote from a kink class: "Some people's sexual orientation is D/S." Thinking back to when my partner gave the command "kneel down, rub your pussy on my shoe, and suck my cock", and I dropped straight into subspace. #kink #bdsm

PSA: Unsolicited advice is the worst advice.

My kind of dress-up is when my partner puts me in pretty outfits and pretty rope.

Mom: "Do you trim your eyebrows? *stares hard at my eyebrows* Why are your eyebrows so short?" Me: "I love my eyebrows what are you talking about 😂" Insecurity unlocked. My mom's very good at this.

You know how doctors pick their specialties because of their own ailment or their loved ones'? That's why I'm a polyamory coach. I love slowing down my feelings and thoughts, and putting them under a microscope.

Reason #98 I like poly: My partner looks really cool when he ties, but I can't see much when I bottom. I love being a spectator and watching him tie other people.

Always check in with people about love languages. Your love language might be their trigger.

Good sex and good food makes a perfect day.

On the flip side, if your partner does something that bothers you, let them know. They might be well intentioned, and the same thing might not bother them.

Are you even a corporate engineer if you don't have an SOP (standard operating procedure) for fighting with your partner?

I saw a cute girl in the office today, and had the revelation, I don't need to *be* a cute girl, I need to *date* a cute girl.

Growing up with frequent separations has given me a sense of object impermanence. I often forget that my partners miss me when they don't see me. Understanding this helps me remember to stay connected, even when we're apart.

Pro tips from an anal beginner: - enema for hygiene and psychological comfort - lube shooter + silicone lube to coat internal tissue - water based lube for insertion - find positions that relax the muscles, for me that's kneeling with my butt closer to the feet

My thoughts on the latest datw episode: Unspoken rules work very well, until conflict arises. Then clear communication is essential. To prevent misunderstandings and ostracization, we must listen to our heart, express our desires and boundaries and listen to others.

Some people are like beets, I know they're great, I'm sure they're loved by many. They're just not for me. I keep giving them chances, thinking this time I will like them more, but I dislike them every time. Eventually I just have to say, I hate beets, and that's ok.

POV: how I flirt