It’s the secularization of life until there are no rituals or ceremonies left. Throw away the ashes. Don’t spend money on a big party, just go to city hall. You’re too old to care about your birthday. Gift exchanges are inefficient.
Maybe due to my secure attachment style (lol) but I literally cannot fathom making this huge of an error in judgement when it comes to choosing a spouse. This is why it honestly makes sense to have some parental involvement in matchmaking if you’re getting married btw ages 18-22