The story in your head is not fact, it’s your experience modified & often distorted by bodily states. Esther Perel explains how understanding this can yield more effective outcomes for both people in romantic relationships. Excerpt from the Huberman Lab podcast out now:

yesterday I remembered that I have a magic dress and it was magical

if you want to be her boyfriend/husband/confidante/someone in her life that she could lean on, work backwards: act like it before she gifts you this role

when men do not automatically perceive themselves to possess the women that they love and/or have sexual relationships with and accept this and welcome it and embrace it women can be free

date idea: you help me clean my burning man camelbak