Unpopular opinion but busy days are the best days, you might be tired and stressed but atleast you were not overthinking and sad all day

"Authenticity is dangerous and expensive" is a barn-burner

the hardest thing i've learned is that, you can’t make someone communicate and work things out. you can't beg for someone to see that you are worth fighting for.

Being in a healthy relationship really taught me there's no such thing as 'that's just the way I am'. When you truly love someone you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings – you adjust, grow & heal together.

The most solid research was done by psychologist John Gottman. He is famous for being able to predict, with 93.6 accuracy, which couples will divorce. "But his most surprising finding is this: The health of a marriage depends primarily on the husband. In his research,

someone should make a dating app where an LLM clone of you goes on thousands of dates with LLM clones of other people, and then your matches are when the LLMs decide to date each other. you can literally build this right now.

New post! 101 things I would tell my self from 10 years ago: approachwithalacrity.com/101-things-for…. > 10 years ago, I started my freshman year of college. This is the advice I needed to hear, not the advice you need to hear. In fact, some of it may be actively bad for you.

I spent like all of my 20s obsessed with trying to fix the loneliness problem - hosted tons of events, tried starting a company around it, etc. Main two takeaways 1) The fact that you can stay home and basically self-medicate with content in a way that feels not-quite-bored is

When I finally launch a project and proceed to post about it repeatedly to the point of cringe, it's because I'm genuinely excited for you all to see it. But also for this reason.

It annoys me tremendously when people say "I was depressed" as a code to "I was in a shitty context" I recognize this in myself too, for a while in my early 20's I thought the depression was the problem... Actually it was a completely natural response x.com/visakanv/statu…

Alright, since I said I was going to write a thread about this, here we go. Up until a few years ago I was introverted, disliked going out, was largely uncomfortable around new people, and generally grappled with social anxiety. My change was largely intentional.

I spent an afternoon with the director of the longest running study on happiness. 5 learnings (that may change your life): Dr. Robert Waldinger is the fourth director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has studied the lives of its 700+ original participants and

woah TIL. apologies are for "I acted out of alignment with how I want to show up in the world" versus, "I wouldn't change my behavior and I felt I did my best - but it hurt you and I care about you and I'm sad about that, how can we do better going forward" is a different thing

If you’re so smart why can’t you flirt

this scene from The Cabin in the Woods (2012)

"Stop playing video games if you want girls to like you more" is a point I am never gonna be able to get through to my audience. The defense mechanisms around video games are more effective than the iron dome.

Not enough adults are understanding that they have to create moments of happiness in their lives. Find things to be excited about. Create plans to look forward to. Decorate the house during holidays. Make a playlist you only listen to on Tuesdays. Keep your favorite snacks