“You are not stressed from doing too much. You are stressed from doing too little of what you care about.” — Mark Manson

the problem with parents is that they are undiagnosed

Okay i definitely see the difference in Baltimore and DC

bring back 3 am “i know you sleep but” paragraphs #reallovers #yearning

I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser into someone with better boundaries it can feel so strange — it's hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re simply respecting your own feelings, bcoz you’re so used to putting other people's feelings before yours.

A super common struggle for CPTSD survivors is putting words to what we're experiencing-- let alone what we've experienced in the past-- without feeling guilty, stupid, or getting floaty (i.e., dissociative) as we're trying to speak. It's like trauma hurts us-- then chokes us.

A woman actually loses interest the moment she realizes she's trying harder than you.

my therapist changed my life when he taught me there are 4 types of conversation: 1) small talk (weather, etc) 2) swapping (you tell a story, I tell a story) 3) listening (you tell a story, I listen/validate) 4) problem-solving (you tell me a story, I help solve the problem)

I don’t just want a soft life because I’m lazy. I want a soft life because my nervous system has been in fight or flight mode since childhood.

Dating someone who actually studies you and pays attention to you >>

How come our parents used to think asking “why” was disrespectful 😭😭 just explain it???

I didn’t SPEAK ILL OF YOU, I spoke about what you did to me, and if that speaks ill of you, that’s your problem, not mine.

Do you guys still use your blinkers if no one is behind you?

Being 28 is so weird because you feel like you’re 23 but then you meet someone who’s 23 and realize what 5 years does for you.

functional depression is real. you joke, you work, you love, you play, you are still there for others, but mentally you are drowning

Me applying to jobs after my boss makes me mad: