📰 My new article on the effects of childhood trauma on adult relationships is now live on Psychology Today “When the Past Haunts the Present: Trauma and Relationships” psychologytoday.com/us/blog/solvin…

“No hack, no protocol, and no mushroom can heal relational trauma.” So well said BrightonPsych

Thrilled to see my article “Infidelity in Relationships and Recovery in Couples Therapy” featured as an Essential Read in Psychology Today As a therapist & researcher, I’ve shared insights on the causes of infidelity, its effects and paths to recovery psychologytoday.com/us/blog/solvin…

Thanks for quoting that, Jonathan Shedler — powerful and deeply true.

What's the quickest way to tell if a relationship is healthy? Both people give each other the benefit of the doubt. Ambiguity is met with curiosity, not accusation. The default belief: the other is for us, not against us.

A takeaway from Kernberg’s model (🙌 Jonathan Shedler) Narcissism exists on a continuum: Pathological → Malignant → Psychopathy. More hate & aggression = further along the continuum. Treatment is possible if there’s still a capacity to connect & care (mainly in pathological n.)

Healthy vs Toxic Jealousy 🌿 Healthy Jealousy: Occasional Acknowledged Discussed openly Encourages reflection, connection 🔥 Toxic Jealousy: Constant, obsessive Blame & control Makes you feel small, reactive 🔥 Possible Causes: Insecurities Past trauma Anxiety Personality issues

👉 Five Key Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) Techniques for ADHD - Predominantly Inattentive Type betterlifepsychologist.com/therapy-adhd/

Cognitive Distortions That Maintain Panic Attacks

“Good psychotherapy creates the conditions for its own expiration because the patient will no longer need us. As Winnicott noted, ‘We all hope our patients will finish with us and forget us, and they will find living itself to be the therapy that makes sense.’” —Nancy McWilliams

What does rebuilding trust look like in couples therapy? It isn’t about aiming to return to what once felt like the “best time.” The relationship has changed and entered a new phase. I shared my perspective in my latest article on Psychology Today ⤵️ psychologytoday.com/us/blog/solvin…

“The evidence shows even more clearly that clients, not therapists, make therapy work”. bps.org.uk/psychologist/c…

Flattered to see my blog on Psychology Today reach 20,000 reads. “How to Overcome an Obsession With a Partner’s Past” has been the most popular article, touching on a topic that is also central to my current PhD research. Thank you to everyone who has taken t psychologytoday.com/us/blog/solvin…