This is a weird analogy, but I hope I explain it well.
Imagine your child is born unable to walk. Would you love your child any less? Of course not. Your child's abilities and flaws do not decide how much you love him or her.
However, you will do two key things:
(a thread)
In unhealthy families, one child becomes the scapegoat. The scapegoat is blamed for all of the family issues.
Here's some signs you were the scapegoat:
Are you an over-achiever, workaholic, or someone who looks like you're doing well, but you're shut down emotionally and feel like life is passing you by?
Your body might be in functional freeze: