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A.V. Flox

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I wrote a book about what neuroscience can teach us about confronting harm, taking accountability, and caring for each other. Look up Disrupting the Bystander.

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Carmen (@carmenleelau) 's Twitter Profile Photo

There are things people Want but are embarrassed to admit it, as if desire is impure, as if we are supposed to want nothing, ask nothing, be nothing, and quietly evaporate into sheepishness, lugging around shells of our lives

Bronxology 👑 (@mindbodybronx) 's Twitter Profile Photo

People assume boundaries are for other people when boundaries are actually for you. A boundary is set for your protection and to teach other people YOUR capacity. If your primary reason for setting boundaries is to try & change someone else’s behavior, it can become controlling.

Muting/Blocking = Self Care (@queeringpsych) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Healthy relationships don’t need secrecy The whole don’t tell your relationship business to outsiders enables toxicity at best This is the same line of thinking that believes chronic disrespect, cheating, etc are part of the “normal” ups and downs in a relationship

Ro Moëd (@unapolygetic) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Maybe loving yourself doesn’t have to mean thinking you’re perfect or even liking yourself all the time, but simply being invested in your wellbeing and self-actualisation.

Yolo Akili (@yoloakili) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Alot of convo on divorce on my timeline. Just a reminder: Endings are necessary and can be beautiful. Every Divorce is not a failure, every relationship ending doesn’t mean someone did something wrong. Sometimes it just means the end of a season folks. No season lasts forever.

Dr. Nicole LePera (@theholisticpsyc) 's Twitter Profile Photo

You're not broken, damaged, or naive. You just weren't give the internal compass for healthy love. You can learn how to discern, take it slow, build relationships where you stop over-giving & under-receiving. You can heal. You deserve more than breadcrumbs.

Dr. Thema (@drthema) 's Twitter Profile Photo

To trauma survivors: May you be treated so well it makes you uncomfortable. May you experience a love so authentic it disrupts every lie the mistreatment wrote on your heart.

Poetic Outlaws (@outlawspoetic) 's Twitter Profile Photo

“The role of the artist is exactly the same as the role of the lover. If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.” ― James Baldwin

“The role of the artist is exactly the same as the role of the lover. If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.”

― James Baldwin
مريم حسنا (@maryamhasnaa) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Reclaiming our power is about recognizing that we’ve always had it. Doing this is a huge mindset shift & isn’t easy. Choosing to be in our power doesn’t mean there won’t be consequences. It means that despite the consequences we are moving authentically. maryamhasnaa.com/reclaiming-pow…

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there is nothing more draining than trying to talk through an issue with someone who instead of finding solutions and lowering their pride, creates new obstacles to tackle by being dismissive and/or defensive

Dr. Nicole LePera (@theholisticpsyc) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Emotionally immature parents do not apologize to their children. They move on as if nothing has happened because they view apologizing as shameful. Or a weakness. Apologizing is accountability. It shows we own our issues and care enough to do better.

Dr. Nicole LePera (@theholisticpsyc) 's Twitter Profile Photo

Over-seriousness is a trauma response. It’s why so many adults can’t play, can’t just have fun, or go with the flow. We’re stuck in sympathetic activation. Our body is fighting a life and death battle.

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You can learn to accurately assess your capacity, willingness, internal battery reserve and needs long before you’re spent and on empty. Stop waiting until you’re drained to consider your needs or to take care of yourself.