After healing from familial abuse, making friends that make you feel lovable is scary as hell. Always trust the one’s who show you you are easy to love.

“Why didn’t you say something” “If it was so bad why didn’t you leave?” “You seemed fine with it” People don’t understand the nervous system— especially freeze and fawn. Our body is trying to keep us alive. We have no control over these reactions

7 Signs You're Creating A More Secure Attachment Style: 1. You're directly asking for what you want, rather than expecting people to read your mind. 2. When you feel hurt or disrespected, you're expressing it and setting boundaries. 3. Even though you feel like shutting down

What I heard, over and over again like a record on repeat was "You're Too Sensitive" In reality my sensitivity serves me well - my very own inbuilt bullshit detector! There's no such thing as being "Too Sensitive"

I grew to understand that people don't always build walls to keep other's out. It is done out of a necessity to protect whatever is left within.

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I still struggle with hyper-vigilance. Thinking today of those who are fighting battles in their head. 🫂

So fitting right now 👇👇👇

This basically explains how a narcissist bases your character and what they think of you. It’s always about your reaction, it basically determines how the day is going to go..that’s why after awhile you start walking on eggshells and lose yourself, trying to be what they want..

People don’t pretend to be depressed. They pretend to be okay.

"We are not thinking machines. We are feeling machines that think." - António Damasio. Our choices are deeply rooted in our emotions. Neuroscience demonstrates that emotions are not distractions but essential aspects of our cognitive processes.

The person who is always afraid someone’s mad at them has often grown up focusing on others needs being met out of their survival. They were shamed for needing help. They got the silent treatment with no warning. They’re on high alert deeply hoping not to get hurt like that again

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Grief in healing comes with pressure that feels like you’re losing time. That reaction is from remembering past events you didn’t know you’d have to heal from later. We want time to pause so we can catch up. Trust, you’re not losing time-you’re gaining truth. Peace is coming.

The truth is still the truth, even if no one believes it. A lie is still a lie, even if it's covered-up and everyone believes the lie.

I think this explains so much.

Hi everyone, just to say I'm taking a break from social media for a while due to illness. Looking forward to connecting with you all again soon 💗