What are you missing most at this moment in time?

What was their favorite food? Did you cook it for them? Did they cook it for you?

What has been the most challenging thing to deal with this week?

What was their favorite song? Is it your favorite too? Or did you hate it?

What was their most annoying habit? Does it make you laugh now? Sad now? Do you miss it?

What was the single most important thing you learned from them?

What was their favorite tv show? Do you still watch it? Or do you avoid it?

Do you wear their clothing?

When it comes to grief, selfish is a good thing. Let's face it most of us just don't have the emotional reserves to do anything else..

One of the most important and hardest things to do is to trust your grief.

One death but each family member is grieving differently and no one has any emotional reserves. Be gentle with each other.

Stop trying to be strong. It almost always backfires.

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is key to getting through this. (Counterintuitive I know)

Never let anyone tell you how to grieve, what you "should" feel or how soon you "should be over it".

No version of they are in a better place makes your loss feel any better. It just doesn't.

You may not get over it but you WILL get through it.

You're dealing with enough change. Keep your home environment familiar and comfortable if you can.

Hire the help you need to get through the legal and financial stuff. No one who is grieving has the energy for it.

Healing is about making whole again. It's not about going back,

Making whole again means weaving together all that was and all that is into who you are right now.