Modern marriage is about having an (actual) partner. Someone who shows up for you and works on themselves. How Marriage Has Changed:

In the past (and still in many places), marriage was mostly an arrangement. Dowries were paid. And often women were married off. With divorce stigmatized or not an option, many people silently suffered in their marriages.

Today, marriage is less practical utility and people are seeking marriage as a space to grow and evolve. People want a true partner. A person who can contribute, have difficult conversations, and show up as the best version of themselves.

With more freedom and options, settling is less appealing. People are willing to wait for a relationship with someone who has similar values, goals, and long term desires.

People want someone who's invested in: - sharing chores, tasks, and overall emotional loads - personal growth (rather than "this is who I am") - difficult conversations (around topics that were once taboo)

People are less willing to settle. They're less willing to share their life with a person who makes them carry all the emotional load or who shuts down and avoids.

People don't want a life with a familiar stranger, they want a true companion. Someone who can be with them at rock bottom, to celebrate in times of joy, and who is secure enough in themselves to work through the times when you don't 'like' each other.

Marriage isn't a fairy tale. And today people want to find someone with realistic expectations who can show up when that fairy tale doesn't exist. Stability, maturity, and consistency is the new "fairy tale."

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