I’ve had two divorces.

My understanding of love and commitment were all wrong.

Here are 3 facts about relationships I wish I had known sooner:

1. Infatuation does NOT = love. Feelings can change depending on many factors, but a strong commitment to something meaningful usually does not.

2. Disney lied. “Happily ever after” doesn’t exist unless you’re doing the work to make it so. You must water your own grass.

And, attempting to rescue someone from the inner hell they’ve created for themselves sounds romantic at first, but will hurt both you, and them, in the long run.

100% do NOT recommend.

Personal responsibility + action is the new sexy.

3. Real relationship success is not about the butterflies or romance. Instead, it’s about how well you manage conflict, and nurture your union and commitment.

I’m not saying it’s ok to fight all day, every day.

Abusive situations definitely DO exist.