When it comes to narcissists/psychopaths/coercive controllers (predators) it is crucial to listen to those who have been targeted. The nature of predators is so different that the many subtle red flags are generally only recognised by those who have had extensive experience.

Tragically, researchers studying predators (psychopaths, narcissists, dark triad) have primarily examined only those in prison or college populations! It was too hard to get information on predators in the broader population and as one academic said to me ‘it would take too

The impact on children born to narcissists/psychopaths/coercive controllers (predators) is horrific. To be raised by a predator, who puts their own motivation before even their own children, is another kind of HELL. Often these children take decades to understand the true

If you are seeking a therapist/counsellor to help you heal from narcissistic or psychopathic abuse, including coercive control, be very cautious. Narcissists/psychopaths are plentiful in the mental health field! Here are 5 strategies to help you make the right decision in

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Narcissists/psychopaths/coercive controllers use intimidation to stop people holding them to account. Intimidation may involve subtle use of aggressive tone, implicit threat, encroaching into body space, holding eye contact too long, all designed to create fear & destabilise.

An important consideration if you are dealing with a narcissist/psychopath/coercive controller, is to ‘take time’. The n/p/cc will engage tactics to try and get you to make a mistake, slip up in some way that they can use against you or to slowly destroy your sense of self. These

I am often asked for recommendations of movies or TV series that reflect the behaviours of dark personality. Of course there are many. ‘Fifteen-Love’ is a series on ABC iview in Australia at the moment that illustrates well the manipulation, lying, convincingness, cruelty,

Narcissists/psychopaths/coercive controllers (predators) LOVE playing with peoples heads! They are manipulators on steroids. They: 1. Lie prolifically, and extensively even when they do not need to. 2. Are convincing when they lie because brain anomalies mean they do not feel

Have you ever been targeted by a narcissist/psychopath/coercive controller? If your answer is ‘I think so’ then you haven’t been! The behaviours of a narcissist/psychopath are extreme, are so painful you may consider ending your own life, & leave you reeling from the impact.

Consider some of the top researchers studying narcissists & psychopaths are themselves narcissists & psychopaths. Consider they have purposely misled the entire population on how to recognise dangerous people. My PhD data indicates this is true.

Narcissists/psychopaths know they are VERY different from a young age. They learn to hide their fascination with people in pain; their motivation to control & have power over others; their urges to manipulate, demean & destroy. What professions would they be drawn to?

People continue to ask about the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath. This is an important distinction so I repost this regularly…. My PhD data indicates that narcissists, psychopaths and Machiavellians are all subsets of one overarching dark personality type -

The most powerful tool of a narcissist/psychopath is their ability to alternate between behaviours that are emotionally, mentally, and/or socially destructive & those that are helpful, caring or reinforcing. They have an uncanny ability to identify the moment the target becomes

Narcissists/psychopaths will do ANYTHING to prevent exposure. This includes throwing their own child under a bus, annihilation of another’s reputation, firing someone, lying in court proceedings, bribing officials, threatening & intimidating innocent people. Have I missed any?

Does this Nike advertisement appear to be normalising the traits of narcissists/psychopaths? youtu.be/pwLergHG81c?si…

Whoever said ‘what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger’ had never been targeted by a narcissist/psychopath! Targeting by a predator can cause: annihilation of sense of self, plummeting confidence, extreme anxiety, illnesses eg potentially cancer, suicidal ideation, addictions…

Predators are VERY good at powerfully discounting anything that might expose them. Red flags for narcissists/psychopaths, particularly those in the public domain are: 1. Someone arguing they are being judged or attacked for issues such as class, background, race, gender, when