I'm over hearing from #adoptiveparents about how their #adoptedchildren don't suffer any trauma. Even as adults, they still call them children, and speak for them like they understand. #separationtrauma is almost impossible to express in words. #adopteetwitter #adopteevoices

#adoption carries the curse of #ambiguousloss, leading to chronic and complex #cptsd. This leads to pervasive and #unresolvedgrief - this is #separationtrauma, often exacerbated by lies and bombardment of #adoptionmyths. #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

#adoptedpeople who speak out about #adoptiontrauma are not seeking sympathy, we don't need anyone on social media to 'fix' us. We are highlighting a false narrative that negates our experience and disregards our truth. #adopteetwitter #adopteevoices

#Adoptedpeople are often afraid to speak out about their lived experience. There are several reasons, including (1) it's hard to find the right words (2) they are in too much pain, and (3) they know they will get advice that plays on the false narrative that pervades adoption.

I received a strange reply from another adoptee, who tweeted that not enough non-white people used the hashing #adopteetwitter. I said I was interested in all stories, I don't investigate background as a rule but should be welcome in this space. I'm Australian btw.

Just following on from my previous response to this tweet - So, would you say you are colourblind? I'm presuming the person who wrote this is in the USA. I'm interested in how people in Australia vs the USA think about colour, and how one should tweet about it.

I feel, more and more, as an #adoptee, that even finding answers does not lead to a sense of peace. Understanding yes, but there are always more questions, many of which will never be answered. I need to come to terms with that #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

Is hypervigilence common among #adoptees? It certainly is an issue for many I've interacted with. I find it exhausting to deal with, it seems to impact every aspect of my life. Strategies are only ever temporary fixes. #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

Talking with another #adoptee today about the tendency for non-adoptees to negate our truths with things like 'You're the only adoptee who thinks like that', meaning we're weird, or our story is skewed. Interested in other adoptee experiences of this. #adopteetwitter

Came across this article recently about how #adoptiontrauma can be masked #adoptee #adopteetwitter severancemag.com/not-my-adoptee…

"I personally don’t think one can call an adoption “open” unless the child knows her birth parents. Those forms of “open adoption” seem to be a panacea for the adults (the adoptive parents) to ensure that the adopted child will feel nothing but happiness." creatingafamily.org/adoption-categ…

Oversharing is common for someone who has lived with trauma inside of them and has not been believed. Their hope is that finally being believed will calm their inner dialogue riddled with shame. The reality: It will.

#Adoptees are people “who’ve grown lives out of half facts, wishful thinking & outright lies. Who piece themselves together with the residue of lost records. From withheld or secreted records." #adoption #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter #adopteejourney #reunion #adoptees4choice

Developmental disturbances and psychopathology occur when a child stays in relationship with deeply bereaved intimates. For example, adoptive parents who never came to terms with their infertility researchgate.net/publication/26… #adopteetwitter #

Who else feels like this as an adopted person? #adopteetwitter #adopteevoices #adoptee

Adoption is a game of Russian Roulette. Will you end up with a nice life, a not so good life, or one that's terrible? It's impossible to know, and there's no-one checking in on your welfare. For a baby or young child, a precarious position. #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

The 'adoption is good' mantra - meaning a better alternative to fostering, or letting the child remain with birth family, is not going away, in fact it seems to be worse than ever. Am I being too pessimistic? #adopteetwitter #adopteevoices #adoptee #adoptees

If all of these adopters actually cared about the child they are disrupting, their actions would be entirely different. But it's clear, it's always about them. #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter

Adoption, and other family regulation systems, is policing because, as a system, it administrates racist, ableist, classist, and patriarchal violences through the state & private industry. 🧵 #NAAM2022 #AdoptionIsTraumaAND #AdopteeTwitter #FFY 1/8

I can't help associating this burrito with an adopted child. Which one is loved more? Which will be looked back on nostalgically? 'That was a great burrito, wasn't it darling?' #adopteevoices #adopteetwitter