Fairness to a narcissist feels like persecution.. To the narcissist, “fair” only feels right when they’re winning, when the scales are tipped toward them. The moment those scales balance, they cry victim. This is why setting boundaries with a narcissist often leads to rage,

There’s a cruel paradox that scapegoats of narcissistic abuse often face. If you handle the abuse stoically — staying composed, functioning, keeping up appearances—people assume nothing was ever wrong. Your pain is invisible, and so is the abuse. But if the trauma catches up with

My counsellor told me You have a toxic trait which is to suffer in silence in the hope that someone notices you're not yourself. This is because when growing up you had to constantly be there for others but no one was ever there for you. If you don't learn to be receptive to help

Covert #narcissists are superficial charmers. They can be very friendly and “thoughtful” with coworkers or “friends” or people they meet in public. But at home with their designated target/victim, their lack of genuine compassion, lack of concern for the pain they cause, and

Malignant narcissists don’t “trust” honest people. Honesty threatens their control: Malignant narcissists operate through manipulation, deceit, and dominance. Honest individuals who speak plainly, question contradictions, or uphold integrity disrupt that control and expose

Let’s stop glorifying burnt-out, and dysregulated nervous systems, and instead start promoting balance and rest without calling people lazy. XO, Dr. Jen

Brandi Morin (Cree/Iroquois) and land defenders from Bolivia will discuss how environmental destruction caused by mining waste and extraction is driving cultural and territorial loss, forced displacement, and growing threats to their communities. Join us: tinyurl.com/bolivia1022

Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a deeply personal and non-linear process, but survivors tend to go through several common stages as they heal. These stages are not always experienced in order, and survivors often revisit earlier stages as they process new realizations or

Want to go to the UN’s biggest gathering of Indigenous peoples? Here’s how. grist.org/indigenous/wan…

People don’t betray you out of malice, they betray you out of self-preservation. When survival collides with loyalty, loyalty dies first. Understand this and you’ll stop being shocked by human behavior.

I noticed that genuine people often prefer spending time at home to avoid unnecessary chaos. They choose peace and honesty over shallow relationships and draining environments. This does not mean they are antisocial, it means they are aware of what exhausts their energy and

Being a morally conscious and morally responsible person actually infuriates a narcissists. They’ll accuse you of “thinking you’re better than everyone”. This is really just a projection of their own mindset. They believe morality is performative, so they assume your ethical

There’s a cruel paradox that scapegoats of narcissistic abuse often face. If you handle the abuse stoically — staying composed, functioning, keeping up appearances—people assume nothing was ever wrong. Your pain is invisible, and so is the abuse. But if the trauma catches up with

If you'd like to be a better communicator, these 6 rules of listening from the visionary humanistic philosopher and psychologist Erich Fromm are a great aid: themarginalian.org/2017/04/05/eri…

Gender-based violence is created and sustained by systems that continue to fail Indigenous women, girls, and gender-diverse people. Ending this crisis requires deep structural change, not symbolic gestures. #16DaysOfActivism #EndGBV

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, residential school denialism is a loser movement: its anti-Indigenous content created by losers for losers who want to denigrate dead Indigenous children on the internet rather than learn the truth and build a more honourable future.

Narcissists systematically dehumanize their victims. Not only do they manipulate the victim's self-perception, convincing them that they are “less than” or unworthy of basic human rights, but they manipulate how others see their victims, portraying them as the notable or

The reason why covert and malignant narcissist get away with their manipulation so easily, is not because they are particularly smart. It’s not because their lies and manipulation tactics are “skilled.” It’s because their behavior is so detached from humanity that most people

Narcissists won’t just be abusive. They’ll do tiny, petty things relentlessly that are designed to get under your skin. They know exactly what they’re doing. And they know you can’t say anything because what they’re doing isn’t technically abuse. It’s not “bad enough” to call

I study authoritarianism for a living, so I do not say this lightly: America isn't facing an authoritarian future. America is living an authoritarian present. (A long 🧵) /1