We rise by lifting others. No one truly makes anyone only God does. He sends people as vessels to guide and support you. So stop saying it’s just you… it’s God.
The only reason most side chicks/guys treat you so well is because they are not the ones at home.
If you keep discussing your partner’s weaknesses with a side chick/guy, do you think they’ll ever show you theirs? They’ll only live a fake life to cover the very gaps you complain