for me, the purest form of love is consideration. when someone thinks about how things would make u feel. pays attention to detail. holds u in regard when making decisions that could affect u. in any bond, how much they care about u can be found in how much they consider u
the fastest way to kill motivation is to make your identity depend on the outcome. it’s called ego involvement. when failing becomes failing as a person, your brain starts avoiding the whole thing. not because you don’t care, but because you care too much.
having a crush is genuinely generative for the soul. wanting something, someone, is healthy for the brain. the act of reaching sharpens perception, awakens attention, and makes you smarter
this is partly why I tell my friends ‘I want a crush’