When trying to get over someone, it’s TOTALLY natural to still feel attached but don’t fall into the trap of idealizing/romanticizing them. Stop clinging to the idea of them. They’re not that amazing. Or unique. And they’re NOT the only person who will ever love you. They’re not.

Pay attention to PATTERNS, not potential. Patterns have happened. Over and over. There is a pattern of behavior when it comes to the ways that this person has let you down, hurt you and disappointed you. Potential? Hasn’t happened, and who knows if it will? Trust patterns.

If your partner makes you feel like absolute shit for voicing your concerns, asking them simple questions, looking for some reassurance sometimes, and just..trying to speak to them about the problems in your relationship (so you can FIX them!!)... Run. This person will ruin you.

It’s horrible to feel undervalued but what’s even worse is undervaluing yourself. Do not fall into the trap of trusting their action/inactions as a reflection of your worth. Your value is there even when they can’t see it. If you do not feel valued, value yourself enough to leave

When you lose someone, what’re you actually losing? You’re losing knots in your stomach when they were ignoring you/gaslighting you/being cruel. You’re losing sleepless nights. You’re losing the stress of trying to hold onto something that always felt like it was slipping away.

Love-bombing is real and toxic af. There’s no reason someone who just met you should be telling you that you're so amazing, they want to be with you forever and they love you. They know nothing about you. It’s not genuine. It’s toxic and they want you attached to them QUICK.

We always discuss blocking people who don't deserve you but we don't talk about what happens after. I want you to know how normal & common it is to DOUBT it. To hurt over it so much that you feel like you're going to die if you don't talk to them. See them. Keep them. I've ended

It seems obvious but it’s not, so I’ll say it: The person who made you feel unlovable isn’t worth loving. They’re not your soulmate or the love of your life. They lost their chance at loving you or being loved by you when they consistently took you for granted. Remember that.

You’ll beg and plead with him, “Why aren’t you replying? Why aren’t you consistent? Why don’t you respect me? Why don’t you care when you’ve hurt my feelings? Why doesn’t it bother you that you could lose me? Why?” You’re actually saying, “Why aren’t you being honest and telling

It feels simultaneously tormenting, humiliating, devastating and disturbing all to have to wonder why the person you care about seems incapable of offering a drop of remorse, compassion or empathy for you. It feels like you’re not even a human being to them. But that’s just it.

Start treating being consistently taken for granted as the unforgivable offense that it truly is, and watch your life improve. By the way, “You can’t make someone love you by giving them more of what they already don’t appreciate.” Read that twice. They already don’t fucking

How do you know if it’s one-sided? By the deep disappointment when you interact with them. Over small things. Big things. The way that it hurts. That inner knowing that they don’t feel the same way that you do. What they do give you is just not enough. You deserve reciprocation.