it made me feel like i didn’t love myself enough if a part of me still yearned for it elsewhere. i was simplifying a nuanced thing. it’s natural to want to connect with people. two things can be true at once — i can love myself deeply & still have room to be loved by another.
People are always crying for help, asking others to save and rescue them from their own bad decisions. Adjust your thinking, learn some self-discipline, acquire resilience and become your own hero. No one is coming to save you!
this old lady just said to me “growth is realizing that someone’s inconsistency is a sign to step back, not a challenge to prove your worth” and i think y’all need to engrave this into your soul.