If you call someone and they don’t answer, send a brief text explaining why you called. Don’t call 27,000 more times. Be blessed

At times,my "why?" is scarcely a question at all. It is a conversational flirt..a door left deliberately open. An invitation to linger,to elaborate,to toy with the idea and step a little closer. When it is received literally,or worse, with offence,the dissonance is most jarring

In this peculiar season of my life, my friend and my sister have, by instinct alone, revealed to me both sides of the same coin. I find myself most grateful for the clarity. God bless them, truly.

After a certain age, being a bad partner is just embarrassing. Sooo you didn’t do any work on yourself? No introspection, no healing, no growth… just basking in your toxicity huh?

Finding out someone you care about does not have the capacity to hold you (either they won’t or just can’t) is a painful realization. Worse if you already bonded/connected.

The journey is not undertaken for comfort, nor solely for the sake of arrival, but for release. I'd say a conscious unburdening, the loosening of the city’s stiffened spine, a long-withheld exhale finally allowed.

PLEASE avoid eggshell type of relationships, can't express yourself, can't be yourself, can't be straight forward, can't be comfortable, can't talk like adults, can't be heard, can't respond with love without it turning into something negative...

I genuinely wish everyone was a little bit happier. I wish misery didn’t love company and I wish more people had honesty and community in their lives. I wish people got embraced several times a day and I wish it was just as easy to sow love as it is to sow indifference

It turns you into a people pleaser. You avoid conflict because you can’t afford to lose access, help, or opportunities. It makes you overexplain. You feel the need to justify your existence, choices, or mistakes. 💔💔💔

I’m reading a book about decision-making written by a poker player, and she points out that “resulting” is misattribution — thinking a bad outcome means you made a bad choice. Your decisions may have been sound, even if it turned out poorly bc you were unlucky. Try to disentangle

Need to read more of Tolstoy

a man who comforts you after an argument instead of acting cold & mean is a man for me.

Maturing is knowing there are certain things you never do to your partner, like.. Dismissing their emotions or undermining their perspectives. Belittling or mocking them. Using their insecurities against them. Constantly blame or criticize them. Ignoring their needs and desires.

Walking away from a relationship you truly wanted to work really messes you up but it is what it is.

It’s embarrassing when you talk highly of someone and they end up disappointing you.

Something I’ve picked up on is men will knee jerk disagree or negate anything you say and they genuinely sometimes do not even know why and cannot disprove what you’re saying. They expect you to doubt yourself. When you double down and say “no, this is a fact” and say something