this gif is frying me

Some ppl aren’t here to be saved. They’re here to teach you how deeply you’re still self abandoning. And if you’re not careful, your capacity to love will become the very thing ppl exploit. So no, don’t let your feelings outrank your boundaries. Choose differently.

JaNa posted a statement

A relationship without emotional safety is not a relationship. It's just an attachment or a trauma bond. you deserve to express yourself freely, to voice your needs, to require resolution after disagreements and to feel emotionally safe in your relationship.

I don’t know man, it’s weird that you guys treat people awfully and come here and act like it’s some winning moment when all it proves is that you are an asshole with no compassion for the people you are involved with when all they’ve done is be good to you.

One of my fave quotes: “Just keep living. If you live long enough, it’ll all make sense.” Bc life doesn’t hand you understanding when you demand it. It hands you confusion. Then time. Then patterns. Then contrast. Then more time. Then if you’re willing, clarity. Let me explain…

If you're not comfortable with something, shut it down fast. Let them call you difficult that's their problem.

Yes !

Maturing is realising that no one will ever talk you out of a person. You have to feel your way out. The mind will rationalise, the heart will hope, but the soul leaves first. Long before you pack your bags, long before you say “I’m done”. Let me explain…

Most ppl don’t struggle with no contact bc they miss the other person. They struggle bc going no contact forces them to face who they became in the relationship. If you’re going to do it right, do it like this. Let me explain…

1. No contact isn’t revenge or to make them miss you more. It’s a decision to stop re entering dynamics where you betray yourself for closeness. If you’re still checking their profile, hoping they reach out, posting things to get their attention, you’re not in no contact

Your addiction isn’t to them, it’s to how the pattern makes you feel needed, wanted, worthy… temporarily. 3. Let go of the idea that it could’ve worked if you’d just been more patient, more forgiving, less sensitive. That story is protecting your attachment, not your healing.

6. Create routines that aren’t shaped around their energy. Instead of wondering if they think about you ask yourself why did you make someone’s uncertainty a measure of your worth. Journal, walk & s with discomfort without filling it.

But that’s not healing. No contact done right will transform you. It’ll expose all the places you abandoned yourself first. It’ll teach you to self source your validation & make you see that you were never asking for too much, just asking the wrong person.

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this just gave me so much motivation

Sometimes you really do just need to deep clean, do some skincare, put on cute pjs, read your bible, and listen to some good music to feel better.

One day you go from struggling to figure out your career, to being the girl everyone wants to get coffee with to ‘pick your brain’. It’s a wild transition 🥹

I've been laughing at this since yesterday. I love nella man.