Yes this is normal with the right men

Explain

My husband and I have a deal that whenever we fight or disagree about something, the first one who notices it’s getting heated needs to speak up and say “hey just a reminder that we’re best friends” and for the last ten years this has worked remarkably well. It really snaps us

Imma make you eat your words

Life hack: Deliberately put yourself in situations out of your comfort zone. Allow how you want to naturally respond to happen. Observe yourself. Let the discomfort sink in. Let yourself make the mistakes and don’t resist anything. Afterwards -> assess what occurred and why.

You cannot see all the red flags and run towards them then sit here and say “why did this happen again?”

Don’t shoot the messenger

When you raise the standard of treatment you give yourself, you set the tone and bar for others to naturally follow — they will, and those that don’t shouldn’t be internalized but thanked for removing their presence

If you wanna put me in some fkd up bs then you gonna have to pay for your decisions in one way or another

Apparently we woke up and chose violence today but it’s okay I am tired FOR YALL. I am TIRED! Give me a break! Give urself a break!!! Let these people deal with the consequences of their actions! Baby! Please! Love yourself! I promise this is the solution, people will never learn

It’s so funny how people naturally compete with you when all you do is just be you, exist and discipline yourself. Like you a big threat when you just consistently place the focus on you. We ain’t competing but you become a big problem // Yikes, we play tag and you it for life