As a first-time mum, the urge to prove something to yourself is strong. You want to do the work yourself because letting someone else step in feels like it takes something away from your journey. But finding your community and allowing help doesn’t take away from your role.

What kind of grandmother is your mom to your kids? Do you wish she’d be more involved or less? I want you to know that it’s normal to feel ambivalent — grateful for her help yet longing to own your own parenting journey. You're doing great!

If you're a mum who has been through and experienced the newborn stage... What words of wisdom or encouragement would you share with expecting parents or moms of little ones? Share in the comments!

It’s okay to pause, slow down, and be flexible. The most important thing? Being present — for your kids this time of year, show up for yourself and practice self care, and be available for the life you're building, at your own pace.

You’re doing amazing — even if you haven’t wrapped a single gift yet. 😉

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Motherhood: the wishing for time to speed up and then aching for it to slow down. What if we let go of the rush? What if we allowed ourselves to feel it all—the beauty, the mess, the longing, and the loss—without needing to fix it?

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Motherhood is a constant tension of love and struggle, expansion and contraction, holding on and letting go. What if we leaned into this truth instead of resisting it?

Motherhood can feel like a constant rush—school runs, activities, chores—but what if we paused more often? Those extra minutes of play, laughter, and connection can mean everything. What if we let go of “getting it all done” and focused on simply being with our children?

A mother may feel trapped, resentful, even rageful. But she may also experience these in the same breath as deep connection, joy, and devotion. That’s ambivalence... And it belongs in motherhood.

A sticky hug when you’re touched out. A spontaneous laugh when you just need quiet. A quiet cuddle when your to-do list is screaming. This is love and overwhelm, side by side.

Motherhood is not about getting it right in the moment. It’s about repairing afterward. That’s where connection lives.

These feelings that just popped into your head don’t make you a dreadful mother. They make you an honest one. They make you a mother with depth. They make you enough.

I felt resentment… which meant I had needs too. I felt anger… which meant I needed space, not shame. I felt boredom… which meant I was human, not ungrateful. I felt grief… which meant I was letting go of who I used to be.

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s repair. It’s showing up again, even when you didn’t get it right the first time.