Heterosexual relationships are mostly built on women’s unpaid labor so dismantling that isn’t so horrible.
Also, ask yourself why must you be reciprocating by cooking, cleaning, why can’t you buy gifts too? Is it not just a performance?
Just imagine if a man posted a picture of his wife and another man commented "I like the fact that she doesn't speak" and he said "as women should".
The audacity to even feel comfortable to talk about another person's partner like that. Person wey you for clear.
Even as a joke if you mention that “ I don’t like mother in laws or I don’t want someone whose mother is alive”
I’d remove myself from your life completely.
Because eranko ni most Eyin people yi.