👉 Your teen is discovering the nature and meaning of his faith. He must wrestle, challenge, question, and doubt so that, when he truly believes, he will have a solid and substantial faith. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #parenting #teens

👉 In contrast, the complacent and apathetic kid who goes through the motions without thinking through her faith runs the risk of abandoning it during her college and adult years. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #parenting #teens

👉 Galatians 5 tells us that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit, and we are called to develop it. We all struggle in one area or another with self-control and maintaining good boundaries with ourselves. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 An external problem is easier to deal with than an internal one. Previously, we were only responsible to, not for, the other party. Now we have a great deal more involvement—we are the other party. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 Due to our lack of security, our loss of grace, our shame, and our pride, we turn inward rather than outward when we’re in trouble. And that’s a problem. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 The problem with this approach is that it makes an idol out of the will, something God never intended. Just as our hearts and minds are distorted by the fall, so is our power to make right decisions. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #Willpower

👉 If relationship is one of God’s primary delivery systems for providing what we need, it makes sense that relationship should be a high value for you. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #relationships

👉 Using it prevents you from trying to adjust reality in order to fit a bad situation. You will find that you are more attracted to people of the truth, the way you have become a person of the truth. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #truth #reality

👉 You will find that you are less and less drawn to people with difficult character issues and more desirous to find people who are full of grace, safety, acceptance, and a hunger to grow. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #grace #safety

👉 They have no “rootedness” in God or others (Eph. 3:17). Thus, they have to take what they think are steps backward to learn to connect with others. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 For example, impulsive overeaters may find that food is a way to stay separate from romantic intimacy. Their fear of being faced with emotionally laden situations may cause them to use food as a boundary. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 We need to embrace failure instead of trying to avoid it. Those people who spend their lives trying to avoid failure are also eluding maturity. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 We need to enter God’s training school of learning to suffer for our irresponsibility. When our own lack of love or responsibility causes the suffering, pain becomes our teacher. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #SelfControl

👉 Many singles we’ve known have this problem problem. Perhaps you do too. You may be attracted to one kind of person, but find that you are better friends with another type. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #dating #friends

👉 Someone has to go deeper because he or she wants to. Get rid of false hope. Do everything possible to make yourself aware of the reality of the person you are drawn to and the relationship that you have. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #dating

👉 As the Bible says, “Charm is deceptive” (Proverbs 31:30). Charmers and their prey are unable to get past romanticization to real intimacy. Many sexual or romance addicts fall into this category. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #dating #romance

👉 God is not willing for any of us to perish, and he takes no pleasure in our destruction (2 Peter 3:9; Ezek. 18:23), but he wants us to change for our own good and his glory. It hurts him deeply when we don’t. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #God

👉 God tries neither to control nor nag us. He is a giver. And one of the things he always gives is a choice, but like a real giver, he also gives the consequences of those choices. He respects boundaries. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #God

👉 When #God makes choices or says no to us, that is his right, his #freedom. If we are to have a real relationship with him, we need to respect that freedom. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #respect

👉 We do not like others trying to manipulate or control us with guilt, and neither does God. He is free from us. When God does something for us, he does it out of choice. His freedom allows him to love. ▶️ Learn more at boundariesbooks.com. #BOUNDARIES #God #freedom #love