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My new favorite word: sonder. It's the profound awareness that every person you encounter has experienced a lifetime of hopes, fears, loves, and heartaches that you'll never know. Each moment of sonder is a reminder to appreciate how little we truly grasp about others' lives.

In a distracted world, the most underrated leadership skill is listening. 144 studies, 155k people: Good listeners have deeper bonds and better results. We feel valued, and they get smarter. Great leaders are devoted learners. A key to learning is to listen more than you talk.

When you’ve made a mistake, refusing to apologize is not a sign of strength. It’s a mark of narcissism. Malcolm Gladwell and I discuss:

Progress doesn’t come from waiting for our circumstances to change. It comes from changing our circumstances. We don’t need confidence to take a leap. We gain confidence by taking the leap. It’s never too soon to start pursuing a dream. The best time is not someday—it’s today.

Closure is a myth. Grief doesn't evaporate—it waxes and wanes. The purpose of grief is not to cause pain. It's to keep memories of loved ones alive and remind us to make the most of our time. Moving forward after loss is not about erasing sorrow. It's about gaining perspective.

Kindness isn't always about saying yes. It's often about suggesting someone more available or capable. 6 studies: We underestimate how much others value referrals. Making connections shows care. More demands require more boundaries. If you can't open your calendar, open a door.

Generosity rarely starts with an offer of help. It often begins with a question about what others need. Even those close to us face invisible hardships. The best way to give is to ask about their challenges. We don't always have a solution, but we can always make them feel

What leads us to ignore experts isn't their knowledge. It's their arrogance. Evidence: Scientists are more credible when they admit what they don't know, acknowledge what they got wrong, and update their views. Trust is earned by expressing humility, not by asserting authority.

The test of a relationship is not how much you enjoy each other’s highs. It’s how well you support each other’s lows. It’s easy to get along on a good day. Care is showing up on a hard day. The most reliable people in your life are the ones who step up when you're down.

True failure is not falling short of our goals. It's failing to pursue our most meaningful goals. In the moment, it feels risky to take a chance. In hindsight, our biggest mistakes are the chances we didn't take. Inaction is a recipe for regret. Action is fuel for growth.

Why smart people often do stupid things: Intelligence isn't a substitute for wisdom. Intelligence is the capacity to learn. Wisdom is converting learning into good judgment. Using brainpower requires willpower. It takes self-control to choose future gains over current impulses.

One of the most reliable ways to improve our mental health is to help others. After being randomly assigned to do just 3 acts of kindness a week, people felt significantly less depressed, anxious, and lonely. Lifting others up elevates us too. Giving shows us that we matter.