Every time this dumb conversation comes up I'm reminded that anti-feminists that killed the ERA in the 1970s often called themselves "Women Who Want to Be Women" on the grounds feminism challenged the definition of a "woman" as "adult wife and mother"

god my process getting ADHD meds is like a microcosm of this county's issues with medicine in general: an incredibly onerous process to get to see a psychiatrist, and once I got one the attitude was "what do you want fam, the candy store is open, let's gooo"