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You're not meant to be emotionally regulated all the time. Being dysregulated can help us. Here's Why:

A huge breakthrough for an abuse survivor is no longer believing they're at fault for what happened to them. It's not just the flip of a switch, but coming face to face with the innocent younger self & saying "Your pain was real. I remember. I see you & I want you to feel safe."

As adults, we have options to look at someones toxic behavior & choose not to engage. When you're a child there is no choice. The only option is to adapt. Every time you place a boundary now, you're giving that young kid a nod, telling them you see them & you've got it from here.

When an abuser says “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 1). They’re not sorry. 2). Instead of apologizing for what they did, they will shame you for not having a better reaction. This puts the focus on your response instead of their behavior. 3). Seriously, they’re not sorry.

Disgraceful: he raped 12 year old. She tried to kill herself afterwards. He served just 13 months in prison. He does not accept what he did was wrong. And there’s no such thing as a one time rapist. I’ve not seen it yet. We know it’s patterned behaviour theguardian.com/sport/article/…

A sign someone who lacks accountability: they blame other people for the outcome of their own choices.

We have no words for how our officers & dogs were targeted in last nights disorder. Our Police dogs demonstrated extreme bravery & did all they could to assist colleagues under a sustained & violent attack. PDs Zoe, Ike, Quga, Yula, Yoko & Poppy are all recovering well #SYN2

If you want women and girls to stop talking about abuse, stop abusing them. Super quick solution.

One week: Huw Edwards is a paedophile. A man murdered 3 girls. Men hijacked a vigil for murdered children, cause chaos in a grieving town. A paedophile plays in Olympics. Two nights of drunk men rioting, fires, fighting. Men can you PLEASE, give it a fucking rest? It's exhausting

We don’t have an immigrant problem. We have a toxic masculinity problem. These are not the type of guys who want to protect women or children. These are the type of guys women and children need protection from. #Riots #FarRightScum

A reminder After the Aug 2011 riots, police & my prosecutors examined all the video evidence for MONTHS identifying & bringing offenders to justice - 1000s of them Some didn’t get arrested till a year later! Prison was the usual sentence My boss was someone called Keir Starmer

#FarageRiots #UKRiots Saw this on TikTok 👏👏👏

#Service update | Love reading? Usually borrow from Spellow Library? 📚 Whilst the library is closed, we’re offering bookworms the chance to use our mobile library service. 🤓 More - bit.ly/3YBxNV1

It fascinates me how many men who were beaten, attacked, bullied and abused by their own fathers go on to hate feminism, women and girls, instead of hating male violence. I notice the same pattern with men and boys who have been raped by men, who absolutely hate women, and hate

Women should feel safe at work. Women should feel safe walking alone in public. Women should feel safe at home. Women should feel safe online. Women should feel safe in public transportation. Women should feel safe EVERYWHERE.