That’s not to say it doesn’t mean anything, either, but it isn’t a real plan.” open.substack.com/pub/dmlavery/p…

One time my friend’s dad, who I was meeting for the first time, asked me how my flight was and I told him it was a long journey on which I experienced the full range of human emotions, and he scoffed and said “I doubt that. I doubt you experienced jouissance, for example”

my third novel is about a relentless string of friendship bust-ups. MEETING NEW PEOPLE comes out summer 2026

had a very good time talking with night gardener and happy maxgraving about online sexual kayfabe: "But PornosexualGooner101 died 35 years ago...THIS VERY NIGHT!!"

"If you believe these guys are avatars of sexual ruination/failed masculinity, you’re buying into the thing they’re getting off on. Lots of trans people also notably get off to similar ideas. Cis men just don’t have the escape hatch of saying it’s a coping mechanism for trauma."

rescuing gooners from themselves: dazed, blue-eyed, limpid, wearing hospital gowns, ready for rehab

tonight! come to the Pegasus Books on Shattuck at 6pm for the Women’s Hotel sequel launch. it’s the only reading I’m doing for this book, so be there or miss out until the next sequel…

William Friedkin’s SORCERER!!! What a picture!!! “just two hours of Roy Scheider finding new ways to be wet” as my buddy Isaac put it. what a film!!!