The “can’t get it done here” attitude is more pervasive across college athletics than many realize. Uber competitive female coaches hear it more as an implicit “aw you’re so competitive, that’s precious.” Until the competitiveness becomes threatening to the status quo and not so

Athletes and coaches tend to be very hard on themselves. Statistics suggest gratitude acts as a protective factor in mental health. It is linked to reports of lower depression and anxiety, higher life satisfaction, better sleep, and more optimism. With this in mind, I often

It’s been a lovely holiday season with the fam. Growing nieces and nephews make every moment together special. I want to recognize that not everyone’s holiday season this year is one of rest, joy and peace. Over on Insta I shared about one of my hardest stretches of life when a

Caring is cool. There is nothing to celebrate about an attitude of nonchalance. It’s a cop-out. A protective mechanism. A way to avoid stepping into the arena and risking failure. There are things worth caring deeply about, and you should care about them deeply.

You can choose fear, worry, doubt, negativity, blame, criticism. Or you can choose hope, faith, peace, positivity, confidence, ownership, belief, commitment. What you choose shapes your reality. If you don't like what you are reaping, check what you are sowing.

Please always be a reliable person. Competence is good but reliability is often what makes people feel at ease in giving you opportunities. Be reliable. Let people think of you as that guy that is reliable.

Problem identification is important for growth, but just “venting” doesn’t actually make us feel better or improve things. A good rule of thumb is if we are going to bring something up, we must be willing to do so with the intent of being involved in solving it (seeking

Forget the waiting game. NAIA recruiting doesn’t follow a strict recruiting calendar, so you can start talking to coaches whenever you're ready.

A major throwback randomly sent to me. Maybe the Chicago Tribune ? Unsure. Spring sport athletes are kicking their prep into gear for season. Concerns about tryouts, positions, making coaches happy, and statistics can abound. I’m often helping clients navigate their focus. Where

“A coach will impact more young people in a year than the average person does in a lifetime” -B. Graham. In Helen’s case, 15 years at Michigan State Field Hockey and her years at Kent State mean countless lives made better. I am one of those. She saw something in this tenacious but super

Anxiety isn’t just in your head. It’s stored in your nervous system. Here are 9 body-based ways to release it (without medication) 🧵 1. Cold water on your face.

It’s easy to quote Dr. King today. Harder to live his courage, compassion, and conviction the rest of the year. Let’s all try choosing the harder thing.

The most stressful place to live is knowing what needs to be done and not doing it. Avoidance builds fear, teaches your brain to flinch, and allows pressure and anxiety to live. Action, even messy or imperfect, kills it. Your mind believes the behavior you repeat.

One of the things I encounter in my work with high level coaches is how often they can become a caricature of their work without realizing it. Their personal mission and identity becomes fused with the performative nature of their work. The result is a carefully concocted facade.

One key differentiator for elite performers: They don't see it as a sacrifice. They don't see long practice hours, going to bed early, skipping out on the parties or whatever as a sacrifiice. They like and live it. They enjoy the dedication. Instead of seeing it as missing out

Optimization and Performance culture play on hyper-individualism and our desire to over-control life. Healthy mental and emotional work help us learn what to process, let go of, and/or accept within ourselves or our situation. Instead of more to do it teaches us how to be.

Do it for yourself not for the attention. Know the difference between the two!

“The more you insulate yourself from struggle, the more fragile you become. Your belief in your capability shrinks. Your sense of agency fades.” Boom ⬇️

One key differentiator for elite performers? They don’t see it as a sacrifice. Going to bed early, skipping the party, putting in hours of practice... That’s not giving something up. It’s living in alignment with what they care about most.

Be confident but stay humble. Believe in yourself, but never assume you have nothing left to learn. Confidence gets you in the game, but humility keeps you growing. The moment you think you’ve got all the answers, you’re doomed.