Anger's original purpose is beautiful. It's a natural alarm system indicating something is wrong, that Love is being violated. When we are treated in an unloving manner, anger motivates us to try and stop it. In childhood we are too small so we learn to stuff. Hello cPTSD 👋

As adult children, many of us have a hard time saying "no" Often times, as toddlers, our boundaries were smashed by narcissistic parents who used us for their own needs As toddlers, we NEED to oppose our parents in order to separate and discover our own unique identity In

The 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma 2 of 60 Fear of Getting Hurt We avoid pain at any cost. In the past, there has been much pain, and no solution to stop the pain because we were too small If we're honest with ourselves, we can see this programming came from childhood.

you are not responsible for every thought that comes into your mind you are responsible for what you do with it

The 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma 1 of 60 Funky Priorities Safety becomes our highest priority. We are afraid of things that may hurt us. This leads to excess caution around others, little or no “love”, and poor relationships. This, like all the 60 characteristics, was

The 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma 3 of 60 Fear of Change We like our routines and don’t like change for fear of getting hurt. The thought paralyzes us and stops us from taking action You've heard this many times before. We have found safety in the monotonous, even if

Addiction is like having your brain's favorite song stuck on repeat except the song is really bad for you and it costs a fortune every time you play it

The talents you've been given are not for your own benefit They are for the benefit of others Then watch as all your needs are meet because you've focused on serving others This life is for learning to Love

Spend more time taking care of people than you do taking care of your things

I've heard that the younger generations eat way less cereal (a notoriously over-processed sugar-laden food) "Great!," I thought Then I heard it wasn't because they were health educated, it was because it's too much work They prefer -open package -feed -toss wrapper "oh" 😟

I've been reading the Bible lately, for my first time It's fascinating The following verse is a message I keep sharing here because it took me a while to learn, but once I did, and then, most importantly, once I applied it, my life has been much more uphill 👉As iron

This is off topic from what I usually share about, but this is a thread from my friend (and one of my mentors for all things writing-related), Euan He's taught me a lot about the written word, so check out his free golden tips on newsletters

A goal of healing is to get to the point of being grateful for the thing you hate/judge 🍻I hated the fact (and thought I was weak) that I couldn't stop drinking when I felt low 💃I hated being addicted to porn (couldn't find an emoji that fit haha) 🌧️I hated my periods of

sex addictions (including porn) and food addictions are usually incredibly challenging to heal from trying to heal from these alone is not wise other addictions aren't directly linked to human survival (we don't come out of the womb wired for alcohol consumption) Food is most

The only cure for grief is to grieve

Porn used to be my master I'd talk about it with a couple guy friends but always in the context of "it's normal, not a biggie" But I was spending tons of energy trying to control it Looking back, I could see I was engaging in it more and more often And the content was getting

real growth is not for the faint of heart voluntarily looking inside, at anything and everything that's been repressed & ignored is hard work but the reward is a life based on reality awake people live in reality sleepwalkers and robots live in a dream, checking things off a

Do we need to share our whole childhood story when working with a therapist or coach? That's a valid question because as we know ALL of the negative patterns in our adult life have their roots in childhood. But no, there's no need to get into all that drama That's the short