Bless the coaches who hold all kids accountable for grades, conduct & behavior. Never doubt that choosing discipline over a win is the right thing. It matters. That example says that regardless of how good a player is, he/she will be held to a very high standard. That’s powerful!
Tips for winning over players:
Accept them as they are
Don’t talk down to them
Show interest in their lives/experiences/needs
Correct in private
Praise in public
Don’t take yourself too seriously
Cultivate relationships with them
Create an environment of honesty & mutual respect
“The sign of a really good player is someone who can have an impact on the game where they don’t necessarily shoot it. They can do other things that help their team win. Players have to learn that.”
-Geno Auriemma
Parents: Teach kids that their relationship with their coach is THEIR relationship. They have to take the initiative to work out issues instead of depending on you to do it. Don’t intervene on their behalf unless it’s absolutely necessary. That kind of independence is invaluable!
Once you become a coach, it’s not about you anymore. It’s about your players & their dreams. Not what you want for them, but what they want for themselves. You’re there to help them go as far as they can to reach their potential. Not matter how big/small the dream, it’s theirs!
You appear entitled if you think coaches should:
Lower standards for you
Accept laziness/mediocrity
Give you what you haven’t earned
Reward you for simply showing up
Accept your excuses
Treat you differently than your peers
Put your ind. wants 1st
Entitlement isn’t attractive!
Your athletic career is most likely temporary; your character lasts a lifetime. The person you are is far more important than the player you are! What are your habits/routines? Are you grateful, humble, honest. Do you care for others? Be someone people respect on & off the court!
"If you want to be great, it’s not about what you can accumulate for yourself, but rather how much of yourself (your time, your energy, and your talents) you can give to others."
~ Jon Gordon
The best player on a team isn’t always the player who scores the most. Sometimes it’s the player who has a high IQ or a diverse/versatile skill set or a player who is unselfish & coachable or who knows their role inside & out. Basing “good” only on points scored is a big mistake!
Players need to adapt to their coach, BUT coaches need to be open minded about their players. Each year & team brings new challenges & a new dynamic. Be willing to change/adapt your system to fit your kids. You have to coach the players you have, not the players you wish you had!
Geno Auriemma on the type of player he wants to coach 🔊
“Are they unselfish?
Are they a great teammate?
When they get subbed out...
are they involved in the game?”