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Susan David, Ph.D.

@susandavid_phd

Psychologist, Harvard Medical School. TED Speaker. Author of the #1 WSJ bestseller Emotional Agility. Take my free quiz: bit.ly/3rlr6CP

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Do you ever find yourself swinging through a jungle of unhelpful thoughts? Sometimes even the smallest misinterpreted interaction can be enough to set us off down a long path of worry. This is the trap of the monkey mind.

Do you ever find yourself swinging through a jungle of unhelpful thoughts? 

Sometimes even the smallest misinterpreted interaction can be enough to set us off down a long path of worry. 

This is the trap of the monkey mind.
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Staying emotionally agile requires us to find the equilibrium between overcompetence on the one hand and overchallenge on the other.

Staying emotionally agile requires us to find the equilibrium between overcompetence on the one hand and overchallenge on the other.
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Wrongheaded righteousness—the need to be right, no matter what, even if it creates more conflict in the end—is one of the most common hooks. Next time you're hooked, pause, take a deep breath, and say to yourself, "I may be right, but is my response serving me?"

Wrongheaded righteousness—the need to be right, no matter what, even if it creates more conflict in the end—is one of the most common hooks.

Next time you're hooked, pause, take a deep breath, and say to yourself, "I may be right, but is my response serving me?"
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We can always learn something from our emotions, even in the moments when we don't feel like we are "managing.” This knowledge doesn't make the discomfort disappear, but it can help to reframe our perspective on it. What is something you've learned from a recent emotion?

We can always learn something from our emotions, even in the moments when we don't feel like we are "managing.” This knowledge doesn't make the discomfort disappear, but it can help to reframe our perspective on it.

What is something you've learned from a recent emotion?
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Have you ever chosen not to apply for a job because you "thought" you wouldn't be seriously considered for it? Have you ever stayed quiet in a meeting, even though you had something interesting to contribute, because you "thought" no one would listen to you?

Have you ever chosen not to apply for a job because you "thought" you wouldn't be seriously considered for it? Have you ever stayed quiet in a meeting, even though you had something interesting to contribute, because you "thought" no one would listen to you?
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Become more aware of your emotions, learn to accept and make peace with them, and flourish by increasing your emotional agility. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.

Become more aware of your emotions, learn to accept and make peace with them, and flourish by increasing your emotional agility. Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.
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The benefits of mindfulness are many, but what we really gain is the ability to live in the present. We learn how to be here, not there.

The benefits of mindfulness are many, but what we really gain is the ability to live in the present. 

We learn how to be here, not there.
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When you find yourself avoiding something, ask: Is this behavior supporting the best version of myself? You can revisit this question time and time again, because your answer will likely vary depending on your time of life or the surrounding circumstances.

When you find yourself avoiding something, ask: Is this behavior supporting the best version of myself? You can revisit this question time and time again, because your answer will likely vary depending on your time of life or the surrounding circumstances.
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Do you find yourself worrying about how much you worry? Sometimes our emotions multiply, creating a dangerous quicksand that leads to nowhere. The next time you're beating yourself up about feeling a certain way, consider this list, and remember that ALL emotions serve a purpose

Do you find yourself worrying about how much you worry?

Sometimes our emotions multiply, creating a dangerous quicksand that leads to nowhere. The next time you're beating yourself up about feeling a certain way, consider this list, and remember that ALL emotions serve a purpose
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We don’t just thrive despite difficult emotions, we often thrive because of them. We learn how to build rich, fulfilling lives by engaging with our emotions from a place of curiosity, compassion, and agility. our values, making intentional decisions, and living authentically.

We don’t just thrive despite difficult emotions, we often thrive because of them. We learn how to build rich, fulfilling lives by engaging with our emotions from a place of curiosity, compassion, and agility.
our values, making intentional decisions, and living authentically.
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Learn to notice when you're hooked so you can speak to yourself kindly, notice what important messages your difficult emotions contain, and create space between stimulus and response.

Learn to notice when you're hooked so you can speak to yourself kindly, notice what important messages your difficult emotions contain, and create space between stimulus and response.
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Sadness often signals that you are in need of support. Guilt might point to an action that wasn’t aligned with who you want to be. Anger may be telling you that your values are being threatened.

Sadness often signals that you are in need of support. Guilt might point to an action that wasn’t aligned with who you want to be. Anger may be telling you that your values are being threatened.
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Owning your story requires you to be open to evolution. It requires you to believe in your potential to grow and change. What outdated stories are you holding on to? Let those go.

Owning your story requires you to be open to evolution. 

It requires you to believe in your potential to grow and change. What outdated stories are you holding on to? Let those go.
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Taking the long view reminds us that: – This overwhelm won’t last forever. – This moment doesn’t define us. – And even now, the small choices we make—especially the ones aligned with our values—matter.

Taking the long view reminds us that:
 – This overwhelm won’t last forever.
 – This moment doesn’t define us.
 – And even now, the small choices we make—especially the ones aligned with our values—matter.
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Give grief the time and space to unfold, heal, and change. You may always grieve a loss in some capacity, but your relationship to that grief will evolve. It won’t always feel this tough.

Give grief the time and space to unfold, heal, and change. 

You may always grieve a loss in some capacity, but your relationship to that grief will evolve. It won’t always feel this tough.