Boundaries are how we keep ourselves emotionally healthy. Here’s a complete guide to boundaries A THREAD 🧵:

If you work with enough people you’ll learn: 1. We all don’t feel good enough 2. We don’t know what we’re doing (learning as we go) 3. We all just want to be loved Human beings are simple and more alike than we think we are.

Trauma survivors aren't vulnerable to addiction or eating disorders because we're weak-willed-- it's because when feelings & memories are this painful, we'll do almost ANYTHING to avoid them. Avoidance is often the only strategy we see to remain even SOMEWHAT functional.

Trauma is stored in the body and revealed in relationships. HERE’S WHAT THAT MEANS 🧵:

Sometimes in order to have great love, it requires great waiting.

Be gracious. Some who fought you will eventually fight for you. Allow space for evolution.

Stop putting your needs last. You deserve to be at the top of your to-do list.

lack of communication leaves too much room for the imagination

People’s behavior is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

Red flags don’t feel like red flags, when they feel like home. We repeat our childhood dynamics because they feel most familiar— and what’s most familiar feels most comfortable to the subconscious mind.

It's helpful to understand that power struggles are common when we felt helpless in childhood. If we had parent figures who: shamed us, engaged in harsh punishment, emotionally abandoned us, invalidated our reality , etc. we attempt to gain power as adults

Our younger developmental parts (inner child) fears losing our autonomy or being in a helpless situation, so we attempt to assert our dominance to stay safe. The issue is: these dynamics block authentic emotional connection

Me ignoring her red flags because she thick

Our personality is not something set in stone or hard-wired. Personality is created based on child environment and first attachments (relationships.) At any age, at any time, we can unlearn and evolve the traits that make us ourselves.

People with childhood trauma tend to have fast and intense friendships relationships. Desperate for the love they didn’t get from a parent, they attach quickly— often missing red flags. Healing is about slowly building trust over surface intimacy.

You’re headed where you’re meant to be.

Codependency slowly disconnects us from our authentic self and creates resentment. Here's why: