Move Through To Thriving
@MThriving
#Narcissist and #NarcissisticAbuse education. Degree in Psych; Grad School = Mental Health & Rehab Counseling. You CAN move through to HEALING.
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06-06-2018 20:16:57
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Tears won't work.
Pleading doesn't work.
Trying to explain doesn't work.
Using logic doesn't work.
Pointing out reality won't work.
Setting #boundaries won't work.
Communicating needs/wants won't work.
What's worse - these things don't even matter.
Not to a #narcissist .
A #narcissist will make you out to be the abuser, spinning reality w/ just enough credibility that others believe their lies.
All they've suffered, all THEIR pain.
All the horrible things you've done.
Lies.
But others believe.
They're doing this before you know it.
'Helping' may lead to your demise. Abusers rely on those who try to help. Try to soothe. Try to work harder & harder to make things better. A #narcissist will take this & run away w/ it, leaving victims in the dust w/ nary a thought.
You are not obligated to help.
I don't use the word 'implore' often, but I'm using it now. If you are in a #relationship where your partner is controlling/abusing you, or recently out & dealing w/ stalking / harassment, I implore you to find resources to ensure your safety. In-PERSON resources.
Not forgiving your #abuser doesn't make you a bad person. Not allowing ONE more second of mal-treatment doesn't make you a bad person. Speaking up & out doesn't make you a bad person.
A #narcissist smears you to others b/c of who THEY are... the SPIN of #NarcissisticAbuse .
Deep hidden shame of a #narcissist propels everything. Shame of who they truly are. This leads to the performance, need for control, power, superiority, attention. External validation for an extreme lack of internal worth.
Narcs are obsessed w/ 'image'.
As a cover.
'Jokes' that hurt. Your reaction = you're too sensitive.
Criticisms that sting. Your reaction = not trying hard enough.
Demands going only 1 way. Your reaction = you being selfish (again).
A #narcissist = ultimate SPIN doctor; spinning reality turning victims into villains.
Trying to explain the slowly building & subtle beginnings of a #narcissist #relationship to an outsider can cause frustration & further hurt.
Why can't they understand?
Those w/o intimate knowledge may find our stories too fantastical to be real.
We know they ARE real.
A #narcissist believes she/he is the ruler of your life. Not only their own life but yours also. What to do & when to do it. What to say & when to say it.
Falling outside of these parameters will equal punishment.
Victims may find themselves conforming over time.
#Conditioning
Outside of the law & employment infractions requiring consequences, I can't think of any situations for which an adult should 'punish' another.
Yet punishment is a #narcissist 's bread & butter.
To condition, control, manipulate, exploit, #abuse .
#NarcissisticAbuse