This video clip is spot on.

Observe who claims the end justifies the means and uses “noble causes” as a pretext to harm others. Pay close attention and learn trait of personality disorders. And decide, beforehand, when you will do if (when!) you notice they match.

Investing 5 minutes into reading this is certain to be a good use of your time: and it will help you recognise and avoid “narc logic” more easily.

13. Postjournalism:
The press lost its monopoly on news when the internet democratized info. To save its business model, it pivoted from journalism into tribalism. The new role of the press is not to inform its readers but to confirm what they already believe.

11. Noble Cause Corruption:
The greatest evils come not from people seeking to do evil, but people seeking to do good and believing the ends justify the means. Everyone who was on the wrong side of history believed they were on the right side.

10. Youngest-Kid-in-Class Syndrome:
A study of 300,000 children (Whiteley et al, 2017) found that the youngest kids in class were more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. This suggests that immaturity is sometimes being mistaken for mental illness.

h/t: Steve Stewart-Williams

5. Naxalt Fallacy:
Smart people tend to use qualifiers like “generally” and “most”, and dumb people tend to ignore them.

“Most people who are pro-choice are also pro-gun-control.”
“Wrong! I’m not!”
“Men are generally taller than women.”
“False! My wife is 7 feet tall!”

Found out an estranged friend passed away. We were estranged because of a slime-ball's smear campaign. I'd reached out a few times, but always postponed going all in. I thought I'd missed out on 10 years of friendship, but those were my friend's last 10 years. The price is real.

Understanding doesn't mean you accept or agree, but that you acknowledge there is a different side to the story.

A therapist who “sounds like a therapist” is best avoided

3/ The practical effect of “therapy speak”(boundaries, journeys, self-care, self-love, gaslighting, triggered, journeys, narcissists, blah blah) is to turn therapy into the equivalent of a horosope—it resonates, sounds like it applies to you personally, but there’s no substance

Instead of “boundaries'

Is there something wrong w helping patients better understand their needs & wants (including what they don’t want), expressing that, and making choices based on their understanding?

Vague “therapy speak” language is often a substitute for actual clarity

Empathy doesn’t equal agreement.

The purpose of empathy isn’t to fold to someone’s views, but to understand where they’re coming from so you can create a better partnership.

It’s to humanize the deal.

People want to work with those who understand them.

Does thinking like a narcissist make you

Me: toxic people will hallucinate they can read minds, then be obnoxious to strangers. Being obnoxious does NOT constitute having an opinion.
Random person: how dare you say my behaviour is a problem!!!
Me: Ok 🤷‍♂️

So much disagreement I see on Twitter comes from people who either don’t know how to think, or don’t know how to read. Occasionally people actually disagree, but they typically are quite polite about it. Often, it comes from people seeking conflict. Maybe because they enjoy it?

2/ -defaults to calming/soothing in response to everything
-acts like cheerleader/coach
-wants to play role of hero or savior
-wants to plays role of spiritual or religious guide
-validates & affirms whatever you say
-speaks in jargon or “therapy speak” instead of plain English

As a favour, please repost.