"You forced me to study narcissism. Now enjoy my educated ass." I never planned to become fluent in manipulation, gaslighting, trauma bonding, and emotional warfare. I never wanted to learn about the dark corners of the human psyche, or how someone could wear a mask so well they

🚨 Upcoming Court of Appeal Hearing – 9 September 2025 🚨 On 9 September, I will be in the Court of Appeal (case CA-2025-001185) defending myself in a committal hearing — where I face possible imprisonment for allegedly breaching an injunction that even the judge admitted could

A wee Sunday reflection: Change doesn’t happen by chance - it happens when we refuse to let go. We must keep the pressure on, speak up even when it’s hard, and remember that together we are stronger. Collective voices create change. I’m genuinely excited for some upcoming

When a parent chooses poverty, it is not the same as struggling despite their best efforts. When they repeatedly make reckless decisions that guarantee instability, quitting jobs without a plan, moving children into unsafe or unsuitable housing, refusing to budget for

Amanda Against Abuse It’s amazing what I ‘good enough father’ gets away with in their eyes…the bar can’t go any lower! Compare that to the expectations of mothers! 🤢

I have such a huge problem with 22 year old newly graduated social workers with no children, no life experience, no relationship experience, no possible job experience other than possibly waitressing through uni- writing Section 7 reports in complex proceedings making highly

When people think of domestic abuse, they picture bruises, broken bones, screaming matches and visible chaos. What they rarely see, or acknowledge, are the quieter forms. The ones that happen in email inboxes, through school drop-offs, in subtle digs that cut deeper than

It can be hard to understand school-based anxiety unless you’ve experienced it yourself or someone close to you has. I work a busy 9-5 job 4 days a week. Work can be stressful. But it has never yet compared to what facing a week at school was like. 🧵 1/5

You were never the problem. You were the truth-teller, and that made you dangerous to their lies.

One of the cruellest forms of abuse is stealing a child’s childhood. It happens when a parent turns their child into their confidant, leaning on them for emotional support instead of protecting them. When they are exposed to adult problems, relationship drama, financial

I don't know who needs to hear this but... When it's a joke, both of us laugh. When it's bullying, only one person is laughing. Know the difference.

At the core of an abusive mindset is a belief in ownership — the idea that once someone is in a relationship with them, that person becomes theirs to control and define. It is not about emotional closeness or deepening intimacy; it is about possession. The partner is not

This week I was invited to share my lived experience alongside other victims of domestic abuse. It was validating to hear similar stories, but also infuriating. In family court, victims are silenced. That silence hides the true scale of abuse and blocks vital support, because

I’ve never undertaken any training, in 20 years of #schoolnursing, that covered #coercivecontrol of children. This has to change. Children are damaged when their #livedexperiences are ignored. #Trauma

Bumped into a woman today who knows my kids through their father. She didn’t acknowledge me at all, even though I was holding their hands. Instead, she asked them what they were doing in the shop, started making “plans” to see them, and as she walked away said “love you”. The

The accusation of FII is not just ridiculous, it is weaponised abuse. Not only by perpetrators but by Cafcass and family court too. It is extremely rare, easily disproven by reviewing the child’s health, yet CAFCASS and the courts entertain it, while children suffer. My

People who develop CPTSD in adulthood (yes, it happens-- a lot) are most often victims of coercive control & systematic deception by people or organizations they trusted. Coming to terms w/ that kind of trauma involves processing grief, disbelief, & shame.

The meddling never stops. The children are happy in my care, we’ve had a brilliant summer. So the day before they go back to him, he sends them a few pounds. Not because they asked, not because they need it, but so he gets to play the “cool dad who loves them.” This is the