@juliaisautistic Being ND doesn’t disable me, a society that refuses to tolerate difference can

Danielle @juliaisautistic So sorry! They wouldn’t even think about how they were affecting us.

@juliaisautistic Relief. I can finally accommodate myself and understand myself in ways I never had before. I can finally have hope for the future. Before I was traumatized, overwhelmed and burnt out to a point I didn't think I'd survive. Now I can do things that help all of those things.

@juliaisautistic Not having the mental or emotional capacity to always be the “problem”. I’m able to project a “normal” persona to get hired but I can’t maintain it afterwards and things always go south quickly.

@juliaisautistic I do wonder if much of what we are labeled by has to do more with childhood and the speed at which we can acquire skill sets rather than how we end up as finished products. I don’t think I am “high functioning” but i functioned enough at the right times and ways to survive school

@juliaisautistic “High functioning” just means I was bloody good at masking when I didn’t know I was autistic. I internalised all my stress. Now I’m letting the mask slip & melting down all over the place. I need more help now than I ever did.

EverSong @juliaisautistic I understand your concern (and obviously I don’t have all the information), but I still think it’s good to support no matter what. I’m autistic and pushed myself past my comfort zone. It was hard but I’m glad I did, and I was lucky to have support. Of course, everyone’s different

@juliaisautistic 💕

EverSong @juliaisautistic I would not think of it as inevitably being a mistake. He’s a kid after all. Let’s hope (and fight to make sure) that workplaces are more accommodating by the time he starts a career in whatever he chooses. Also, autistic people often develop skills later in life.

@juliaisautistic ABA also teaches skills like colors, matching, and counting through positive and negative reinforcement under the guise that this is the only way autistic people can learn. It was created by the inventor of gay conversion therapy with the same intent: to “convert” autistics to NT

@juliaisautistic I say something that makes everyone feel awkward, add some oversharing, splash around some RSD when the other person doesn't follow the script I didn't share, then avoid all contact for the rest of my life.

@juliaisautistic Sounds interesting and would definitely love to know more when you get the chance! Thank you for sharing!! 🙂

@juliaisautistic Avoid NTs.

@juliaisautistic You’re just the right amount of weird for you and being obsessed with things you’re interested in is a blessing, not something to be ashamed of.

@juliaisautistic Visual/written instructions available for tasks

Well organized stations for tasks with everything needed for that job in the same place

Clearly designated tasks so everyone knows (mostly) what they will be responsible for in advance

Have fun💕

@juliaisautistic I think that's the way to do it. I also found that my boss was just so open and willing to understand and that really helped too.

@juliaisautistic I feel like timing is not any sort of real deal. Early or late we are all different from NTs and have contributed significantly to humanity, oftentimes despite so much pain

@juliaisautistic I’m starting to think that the longer someone is high masking/low support, the greater the support needs will be down the line. My support needs have drastically increased in the last 3 yrs but everyone would assume I’m just lazy if I voiced them

@juliaisautistic If I say 'I like your coat' does this mean
a) I like your coat
b) I hate your coat
c) I'm going to steal your coat

b and c = allistic

(Disclaimer, I'm joking, I'm sure allistics can sometimes say what they mean and interpret things straightforwardly)

@juliaisautistic Close to 60. I felt relief and shock. But it helped me start to learn how to regulate my masking to avoid quite so much meltdown and burnout.