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The quickest and most effective way to get your needs met in a relationship:

Learn what they are and ask for them 🌱

Some people feel but need help to understand. Some people understand but need help to feel. Therapy helps with both.

It’s ok if people don’t like you. Most people don’t even like themselves.

It’s ok to feel sad after making the right decision.

Your responsibility:

💕 being decently kind
🛋 working on yourself
🤝 doing what you say you’ll do
🗣 learning & voicing your needs

Not your responsibility:

🔧 fixing people
💡 having it all figured out
🤩 being liked by everyone
🤖 denying your feelings for others’ comfort

Healing happens through relationships.

Some people sacrifice the balance within them to keep the balance around them. This often comes from growing up in environments where that felt like the only real choice.

Here to remind you that you have more choices now. And that your internal world is worthy of your attention.

A job, relationship, friendship, adventure, love, or pursuit … does not have to last forever for it to be worth having or doing.

hello to that one person who nods along encouragingly during presentations

Find the people you feel safe to make mistakes with.

Therapy is an investment, not an expense.

Psst... any relationship that can be ruined by a thoughtful conversation about how you feel and what you need doesn’t have long-term stability or potential anyway

The assumptions you make about other people’s intentions will tell you everything about how you’ve been treated in your most vulnerable moments.

It will never work to hate yourself into a better version of who you are.

The fact that the word ‘needy’ is such an insult speaks to how terrified we are of our own needs and dependence.

We are all needy when our needs are not met, just as we are all hungry when we go without food.

Imagine your 5-year-old self sitting next to you.

Got it?

Now look that kid right in the eye and tell them that you’re proud of them for doing the best they could with the very limited set of choices they had.

We’re all just kids in adult armor. Cut yourself a little slack.

Work on being kinder when you’re hurt.

Seeing, monitoring, and judging videos of yourself all day is unnatural and psychologically taxing.

Turn off self-view for all of your Zoom calls. It feels strange at first but you’ll be amazed by how much less exhausted you feel at the end of each day.