More and more life feels like an episode of The Boondocks.

I forgive myself for how I’ve showed up in love that felt unsafe.

I realize that when I exclusively choose safe spaces, I get to be a better partner. A better friend.

I will never go back.

I gave more money away so far this month than I’ve spent on myself.

To family, to fundraising efforts, to independent creator’s Patreons and Substacks. And frankly, that’s where my money belongs.

I would rather support community than buy more stuff.

Baby turned 40. 🎉

Ashley 4.0 🎉

Black Ashley I’m almost there but every elder Black woman in my family said it was their favorite decade. They said then they knew what they wanted and what they didn’t, they were ready to center themselves and they had a foundation to build their dreams on. I’m excited to see what it brings.

Black Ashley My 40s are my sweetest decade because I now listen to what truly calls to me--for example, I knew with heart, soul, muscle watching advanced adult swimmers learn butterfly I needed to learn THAT in this lifetime; within six months, I did. (Not masterfully, but so, so joyfully!)

Black Ashley Drink more water. Move your body as much as possible. Find peace at all costs.

For my fellow ‘84 babies…

Perimenopause is real and it could start today. It may have already started. But there is not enough conversation about it.

Many things we associated with normal aging are actually perimenopause symptoms. Your bleed might not be affected. But that foggy memory, fatigue,

Welcome to “me” season

Black Ashley it’s more fun than they told us it would be

Oh! This is a great idea!

lean into the IDGAF. it will bless you 🫶🏾

Black Ashley Drink water. Walk more. Hold only what belongs to you.

“Send me your birthday wishlist link.”

This too is foreplay.

here’s my monthly ask for $10 million so we can make your new favorite stoner sci-fi horror comedy movie

There’s no “female” Hip Hop. It’s just Hip Hop, loved ones. ♥️