someone taking the time to explain how they are feeling hurt as a result of our actions means they value our presence in their life. they’re giving us a chance to show up in a way that is comfortable for both parties. when people stop explaining to us how they feel, they’ll exit.
one time i had a new coworker that asked me my sign and i said virgo and she was like “oh so ur evil…” then she had a psychotic break and got arrested at my job and i googled her and she previously went to prison for stabbing a girl