These are simple issues, really. Do what works for you. The problem is that people want you to want what they want. Terrified by any decline in the popularity of their choices, they gate-keep your freedom by repackaging their fears in the form of honest criticism.

Thank you!!

Love reading from this page. So much outpouring of knowledge. How can someone be so observant.

There’s a particular story in the Bible that I can’t get off my head. I pondered on it first in 2018 and each time I think about it, the message appears more profound than it appeared previously.

Just follow my analogy:

I really try my best to avoid people who are insecure or have self esteem issues. They find a way to make everything worse or always find a way to be the victim.

If you can, try and raise confident children. Try and help your friends and loved ones be more confident.

One thing I know from my experience with people is that you can get what you want if you make them clear enough that they begin to manifest in your actions and decisions by osmosis. You can get the kind of partner you want. The kind of relationship. The kind of marriage.

depth and reasonability. never negotiate this.

A powerful relationship, in my view, is one that minimizes the need for frictional conversations. - Mr. Possible 👏🏾

A hill I’m forever camping on📍

I enjoyed this thread so much and I agree with all three. That number two especially, the ability to make a home loving, cosy and a safe haven for every member of the family. Reminds me of growing up and friends always mentioned how our house felt welcoming. My mum, that woman!👸🏽

By tenderness I mean, first, she’s not obstinate for the sake of it. She’s not trying to prove a point because she has ascribed to herself, a certain persona that makes her feel embarrassed whenever she’s invited to discretion, measure, and reasonable compromise.

You’ll not appreciate how huge the impact of the point Destiny is trying to make can be in your marriage until you encounter an opinionated id!ot, who argues for the sake of it. Is too proud to defer to superior opinion even when it’s obvious and generally loves to be stubborn

I have my principles and sometimes obeying them is the death of ‘us’.

Mr. Possible

Just stumbled on this account today or I just never paid attention. I had scrolled down to posts from 2021 before I realized how much time spent on his twitter, wow! How can one person radiate so much brilliance and intelligence ? If you wrote novels , I’d have read them b4 dawn!

Young men not ruthless enough. Worried girl won't talk to them again, or whatever. Overanalyse every move. Boyish infatuation. Who cares. You'll become more of a man with age, but she won't become more of a woman. Never fight to keep a woman. If she wants to go, let her. Bye bye.

Articulating my most recent deal-breaker.

How he wanted all of these, and I didn’t grasp so quickly till abit late, I’m learning I promise, but can you give us some grace to grow into this.

Need someone to give me a rambunctious End of the World quote. Something beautiful and poetic but rambunctious. Winner gets prize and i use the quote “ - *their name*” in my music video. Let’s go.

That second deal breaker. Neuroticism - a Pandora's box. I despise it.

I catch a whiff at any stage of our relations and it's goodbye.

I'm also big on judgement. It's one thing people can never hide. It is inconspicuous even in the smallest details of existing.

At the end of the day, I think a lot of these arguments we have can be resolved when people find their people.

Find someone who is on the same page as you. Someone who holds the same values and beliefs. Problem solved.

Reasonable points btw Mr. Possible

If you’re finding it hard to articulate your thoughts, it’s most likely an absence of precision in the thoughts themselves or an inadequacy in vocabulary. You have to then reorient your mental model. How? Read wider subjects and do so more frequently. Write often. Speak often.